Since we are supposed to be keeping threads a little shorter I thought it was time to start a new LF thread too.
For those of you unfamiliar with Little Friday I'm copying in Missherlove's explanation:
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Maybe I should give a little background on Little Friday so everyone will know where this all started and what it has evolved into for me and now all of you too.
A very good friend of mine that used to live in our neighborhood and is happily married used to take time out once a week with his wife. We all had the same demands on our time, work, house, kids etc. Jeff is a person who lives life to the fullest aways and lives in the moment, I truly admire him, he is a real "life of the party" kind of guy.
He would make sure to help his W get the kids fed and to bed early or at least on time on Thursday nights. Once the kids were down, they would have a late dinner that he fixed for just the two of them. They would have a bottle of wine and unwind and talk to each other uninterrupted for a couple of hours at least once a week. They also put on music that took them to another place even though they never left the house. Sometimes they would talk, sometimes they would laugh, sometimes they would dance, sometimes they would just sit and listen to the music......together. Jeff always said he and his wife liked to welcome the weekend a little early and thus the name "Little Friday"
Jeff shared this practice with me a number of years ago and my W and I did this but did not quite grab the concept of maintaining the connection with each other. We made it more about a night to socialize during the week which is not bad but the point was to have uninterrupted "quality" time with your spouse.
I have now made it the one day a week I give to myself, a day to recognize that life is good and it is good to be alive. For me sometimes I want to be alone, sometimes I want to have friends over, doesn't matter it is my day to be happy no matter what! A day of affirmation if you will. I like to put on music that takes me to a different place, for me I prefer to go to the Caribbean so I tend to lean towards that music that reminds me of being on vacation.
If you are reading this thread you are on these boards to save your marriage but as you have learned or will learn is that you save your marriage by saving yourself first. Life can be hard, it can be unfair, but it can also be just what it is....LIFE, the opposite of DEATH. I know sometimes you may feel as though you have spiritually died but we have to remind ourselves that we have within us the power to make ourselves happy!! We control the life we live and I want my life to be GOOD!!!
So grab your beverage of choice, put on that music that takes you away to a happy place away from all the crap going on right now and relax. Welcome the weekend a little early!!
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I wish you all a wonderful day, with peace, love and laughter. PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Pei - thanks for the background on Happy Little Friday. It actually made me teary eyed sitting here in my office at work. I love this concept, and I guess I cry a little because I would love to do this with my husband - but never did. Not that I didn't think about it, just that I would have thought that he would think it was stupid. His idea of Happy Little Friday would be sex - NOT THAT I MINDED!!!
There are times when I think back to just a year and a half ago, he would take hold of me in the middle of the night and kiss me and whisper that he loved me. That is what I grieve for. But each day it gets easier. Each day the pain is less. The wall of strength gets sturdier everyday he is gone. I am getting to the point were I just have had enough of his "mess" of a life and I just don't want to witness it anymore.
You know I used to like rollercoasters...now I hate them! LOL!!
I will take your advice, I will have my own Happy Little Friday. Sit down and have a glass of wine - listen to some music and relax. Sounds wonderful.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
