Thanks everyone for you replies. Just a couple self awareness observations. I feel very suspicious of all this attention he is paying to me by the texting.
I am having constant dreams where all I do is chew his ass out about what he has done.
I am having trouble sleeping now.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Another interesting thing. Ex has been right on time with all his payments to me for the last 2 months, which is unusual.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am not doing well tonight. My suspicions were right. Ex is up to something. He is taking me back to court saying that my daughter is spending more time with him so the child support should get lowered. I got a letter from his lawyer today. I am so sad, I thought ex was making progress. I was hoping we could co-parent without all the drama - wrong.
I will be back to going dark now. So sad
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am so sorry to hear about this --but you know --and Snodderly has pointed this out many times --when a MLC'er is acting super nice all of a sudden --it can mean that they are trying to manipulate you about something. In this case --that seems to be the case.
Your "little boy" has yet to face himself. And that usually means that he is going to have to go through a lot of pain and reality. I am praying for his sake --that that is coming soon. He needs to hit bottom big time!
Hang in there --the Lord is far from finished with this story!
I'm sorry too that it was the calm before one of his many storms.
It's seems that his life is so empty and lonely that no matter how dark you seem to go on him, your ex is opening the door to the dark room and switching on that light.
Thanks for your kind words. I am feeling a little better today. His actions just make no sense though. I guess that is to be expected.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I'm very, very sorry to hear what he's up to now. You can't trust them at all. I swear, they all drink from the same well...when they are nice, you better made sure your radar is tuned up and be on your toes.
Document everything....it's very important. I had hoped he was scraping bottom of the barrel, but he's not there yet.
Hugs to you and stay the course.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
trusting - both your x and mine are MASTER malipulators. I think mine got better because of being in sales...it is something they learn and use to their benefit.
You were wonderful because you are honest and sincere. He is deceitful and I am so sorry that you got "Sucked" in. We have had to learn that with them their ACTIONS in the LONG haul are what make everything with them show truth or lies. We can't trust them... but we don't have to be angry or hurtful. Just guarded
I think you are amazing. I am sorry he hurt you.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Snodderly said it all. Document, document, document. If it isn't written down, it didn't happen in the eyes of the court. Keep receipts. Even for a trip to the Dairy Queen. It's crappy, I know, but he has made it this way, and you have to play the cards they way he dealt them.
