S19 and D16 are pulling A's and D18 has her ups and downs with grades, etc. but she is adjusting to college life in South Carolina and loves it.
I begin a full time job on Friday working a few miles from home in the medical field.
And of course we have two kids birthdays coming up in a few weeks and just around the corner from that are the holidays. D18 will be home for three weeks at Christmastime. I think she is either staying on campus for T'giving as are other students or she will go to Virginia to her roommates parents home.
Saw H the last week of August as he came and spent the day before D18 went to college. He was very quiet but all did well keeping conversations about school, etc. going. I made dinner and all of us ate together.
I am also involved in a wonderful Bible Study titled, "When godly people do ungodly things." It is very interesting.
So far, we are doing well.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm glad you posted....sometimes it takes a while for things to turn around and it appears that things are starting to look up for you and your family.
It sounds like your children are doing well with school. Your d in SC will be okay. It's an adjustment for her to be away from home. I think she is wise in staying there for Thanksgiving and returning home for Christmas. I'm sure she would love to come home for both holidays, but it's expensive to do two trips in less than 4 weeks.
I hope the new job works out for you. You've been searching for a position for quite some time. Maybe this position won't have you on your feet all of the time.
Thank goodness your h came to visit w/his family before your d went off the college. At least he went away w/memories of his family and how each of you has survived and accomplished so much.
You and your family have come a long way....
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You seem to be very calm and in a good place in your heart and soul, or at least as good as can be expected. Congratulations on your job, on your children. Keep an eye on the college Freshman, I know from experience that is a tough row to hoe even without any side drama at home.
From your sig above, you are obviously a very patient and strong woman. As Brooklyn likes to say, Keep Steppin'.
Thankfully, I will not be on my feet in the new job which is great.
The airfares have really gone up and her ticket was $361 round-trip. Definitely not worth it to come home for T'giving.
I had a few conversations with H before he came over. Actually, I extended the olive branch to him a few weeks before and asked if he would like to come over and spend some time before she went away. He did not hesitate at all to say yes.
Everyone was nervous because he was always in a bad mood or cynical as a result of the drinking in the past and this was the first time he'd been here and seen the girls in over a year. He has been sober since June, D16 tells me.
D18 told him all about college, showed him her pictures, videos from graduation, her awards, her laptop.....and he asked how was it she could afford all of this. We told him she had worked during school and some of the summer and she received graduation gifts as well. He could not remember what grade D16 was entering and we brushed it off and told him she was a junior.
I spent the day with D16 yesterday and out of the blue she tells me that her dad does not give a rip about ow...he is just there because he likes to be alone, that ow is clingy, insecure and does not trust him because she calls him all the time and her dad does not call ow.
I never brought this stuff up to her and I looked at her and asked how she knew all of this and she said she has been reading a lot of books, studying behavior patterns, body language, etc. as she wants to get into psych and/or criminology in college.
The books this child checks out of the library every few weeks...she needs a suitcase to fit them all!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I am fortunate that D18 is at a Christian university and they do not have the same type of partying atmosphere that most other colleges do. Not only that, they have to be in their dorms by a certain time and lights out at midnight.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
She attends Bob Jones University as do many others she knows and believe me when I say, these kids are not into drinking, etc. They have rules there you would not normally find elsewhere.
She is very busy with her studies, work and the hours she must put in on weekends for her major.
With regard to my H making a decision. That is not even on my mind as I have enough on my plate over here. He was never a doer, always needed someone to grab him by the hand. We are not there to do that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I started a new job with a one day training last Friday. Monday and Tuesday was some more cross training and today, I was promoted into a different position. Some people wanted to do what I am now doing but I didn't say anything. Not sure about all of the particulars such as pay, etc.
Child 1 still doing quite well in school, getting straight A's. Child 2 is doing better and has her mid-semester grades..she has a little bit of everything but no F. Child 3 still in high school and doing quite well.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
My kids were horrified and angry to say the least when they saw it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
