I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Gatsby- is that why you have way more work than usual? It totally sets us back several days doesn't it?!

Yesterday I woke up with very painful, inflamed arthritis. DUH- I was on my feet for almost 10 hours straight, and doing a lot of grunt work. Of course that will result in some issues when I haven't been doing that kind of work in awhile. So I tossed back the ibuprofen and a few prednisone (only in times of intense inflammation). I was limping all day (feels like your right ankle is sprained) but by mid afternoon, the inflammation was down. People kept asking "are you ok? What happened?" so I had to say "it's arthritis! It will get better." It definitely slowed me down. It started to clear up by 2 p.m. but I had to leave at 3!

I had to go to meetings and then I also wasted an hour making class labels (printer issues) when normally it would take 10 minutes! So I think I really ended up only having 4 hours to do work. Still have to set up desks and chairs and put away 25 bags/boxes of stuff.

I picked up S at 3:30, we went to the DMV to get my car fuel emissions checked and then we went to the pharmacy and picked up a take and bake pizza...got home about 5:30. I spent some quality time playing with him after dinner and he had a bath, then crashed at 7:15! I was only able to read a couple of books to him but he LOVES "5 Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed" and when I say those words, he bounces and throws his head back (because one fell off and bumped his head!)

Luckily, I have a teacher friend from my mommy group (she is 37.5 weeks pregnant) who is willing to come in today and help with stuff today! I have a looooong list and am so grateful!

I am leaving at 4 p.m. no matter what. Gotta figure out what to wear tonight.

[newmama]

ZOOBREW texted me today- said "Have fun at the ___tonight. Just thinking of you, mi amiga "

I waited til I was done with my work task and then replied
"hola amigo. Thanks- I'm looking forward to it after being a hard workin' woman all week! I've had thoughts of you, too ;)"

He had to look it up to know what I was doing. He has his kids tonight so he most likely isn't going. I wonder if he remembered that I told him I was going to a meetup, checked it out, and wanted to keep himself in my thoughts! WTH????? any opinions?

If I still meet someone I like I will pounce on it! But I saw this guy from 3 months ago, 51 year old goofball, is going. Luckily my single woman friend J called me earlier to see if I was going and asked if we wanted to go together! phew. I guess if he is direct with me and asks me straight out "do you want to go out sometime" I will need to say "sorry, but I only have friendly feelings for you." Unless there is a nicer way of saying it? I mean I don't want to use some excuse since I AM interested in dating a little. Just only men I am attracted to.

[newmama]

ok and about stbxh. So he said "I heard you went to see SIL and MIL. That was so nice of you!" What could I say? So I said nothing. Then he said "we're headed over there on Saturday."

Today he shows up, ready to take S with him over there. No one was waiting in the car...

I scored one point for being direct with my feelings with MIL (through SIL!)

[courageous wife]

Busy, busy, busy! That is great NM! Hope your arthritis settled down so you can have fun tonight!

[newmama]

CW- my RA was under control!

Here is how it went:

We arrive to meet a bunch of people outdoors on a patio, and meet a nice woman right away. SHe is from Australia so we enjoy her accent. Well, the 3 of us got some food and sat down at a table with a man and his son! Yep, he brought his 22 year old son with him to a single parent meetup event. (?)

Anyway, we all make polite chit chat and then the man and his son go to have a cigar. The Aussie starts to tell her dating story but then we are told to head inside. Once we got inside, the scene changed and it was very cozy. I did see the 51 year old but he pretended he didn't recognize me. I went up and introduced myself (remember me? just saying hi!) and he said "oh yeah! That was fun wasn't it?" and I said "yes it was! looking forward to seeing what this is all about! Have a good night."

My friend J was into 2 different men. One was completely over the top, mr. giggolo wannabe, going up to every woman practically. He grabbed a tamborine from the band and started dancing with women. (he did grab me by the waist as he walked by but I was not interested even if J didn't like him!)

J said he would be "Mr. Right Now" and then started dancing with another guy, the European. Well, her tactic worked because Mr.Giggolo came right up and started grooving with her. My take was that he was insecure and all about getting validation from EVERY woman. Meanwhile, the European was having fun dancing with her and another brunette. He seemed shy but he liked her. I asked her if she would make a move and she said maybe, but she wants to see if he will send her a greeting through the meetup first.

The other guy was someone from the zoobrew. A smooth, kind, warm, good looking man who was born in the Phillipines (sp). I liked him for her but she said he goes to church and she is atheist. Bummer!

The Aussie met someone and the 2 were chatting. I stopped him as I saw him leaving. I caught him and asked if he liked her and he said yes, but he will be sending her an email/ greeting. He said he didn't ask her out because she was Australian and he wasn't sure if that was culturally appropriate. (WHAT??? Piano- enlighten me here!) I told him she definitely liked him, so he should send her a message for sure! He lit up and seemed happy to hear it. I told her he was going to be contacting her and she was happy. (Is this overstepping my bounds?) J said her body language did not show that she was into him, and Aussie said she didn't want to come on too eager or too strong.

So, no one for me...there were a couple of cuties but they were attached to other women all night, at the other end of the bar. I will find them on meetup and see if they're going to another one soon.

OK off to get some work done!

[Mystik]

Sounds like a fun evening. Too bad there was no one for you last night but there's always next time, right?

[courageous wife]

NM

I seriously think tha we could be best friends if we were 10yrs close in age!! I think you would love my bro! I think he would love too!!!

[newmama]

CW, how old is your brother?

Well I got a good night's sleep- woke up at 5 a.m. to clean my house (partly) and am now about to go into work again.

In a couple of weeks I will be going to start GALing again- more meetups, etc. I hung out with an awesome girl who is 28 but she seems mature or I am immature (lol!). So maybe we could hang sometime. But am really really starting to want male companionship.

[Mystik]

NM, when does school officially start for you? Is your classroom all ready? DS starts on Wednesday, I don't think he quite gets it that he's going back to school though.

[courageous wife]

My brother is 43 so a little older than you!!! He is probably too set in his bachelor life ways!!!