Thank you for your comments! I will figure out how to relate to my inlaws somehow.
Wow...am a little overwhelmed with this new change of a new grade and new team and new classroom and new life as a teacher who is a single mom. But it will get better! I know it will.
I really miss S. Last time I saw him was 7:20 this morning (it is 9 p.m. now) and I won't see him until 3 something p.m. tomorrow.
I am supposed to take him to visit my stbxSIL and MIL tomorrow. But I reserve the right to cancel if I feel like it is too much and I just want to be with him all alone.
Told one other person at school on my grade level team about the reason for the divorce...her H left her for an OW 12 years ago. He stayed with her for a few years (married her even) and then left her for his high school sweetheart that he reconnected with on Facebook. Her H had 2 kids with the OW, and those kids became half siblings to my teacher friend's kids.
I guess there are 3 of us at the school who belong to "The Divorced Wives Club."
Something else interesting was that my teacher friend said she is always sure to NOT BE A THREAT to other married women...she only looks at the wives in a couple, she avoids being alone with married men, etc. I feel and think and do the exact thing!! It felt nice to know someone else had the same perspective.
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P.S. Timeheals. WOW- I can't believe you were paralyzed for 2 months. I am sure your whole perspective on life must be permanently altered from that experience!
Don't worry- I do not believe in being the victim or staying stuck in a poor me role without changing things. I think it is ok to vent sometimes though and admit "this sucks! Life is hard!" but then reboot and face the next day with a more positive outloook.
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It does get easier being a teaching single mom. Sometimes it can get hard, but you really have to set boundaries with work and home so you can spend quality time with S. At some point you will get your new routine down, and it will be like you have been doing this forever.
Enjoy the new school year!
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looks like I could be teaching 1st instead of 2nd...I don't mind. I KNOW 1st grade pretty well and wouldnt have to learn a bunch of new curriculum. That would give me more time with S. And to GAL! So I kind of hope it will happen, actually. I just can avoid labeling my classroom with names and not put up any grade specific posters until I find out.
But I won't know for a couple of days.
I picked S up early today and he was sooo happy to see me and of course I felt the same! Then we went to my stbxSIL's house and my stbxMIL was there. We had a pleasant visit (never talked about the elephant). On my way out, SIL said "stbxh is going to visit on Saturday." So I dont know if that means he will visit alone or what!
But S had a rough day, being at daycare since 6:30 am. and he didn't nap well. So he was ready for bed by 6:45 p.m.! At least we got some "quality time" together.
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Hi NM! I am sure it will take a little while for S to get into his new routine! It will get better! He is lucky to have you as a Mom!!! Hope you get the 1st grade assignment if that is what you are hoping for!!!! Have a good night!!!
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You're right, CW! I guess it is a new routine and it will take a week or so. I need to remember that.
STBXH hasn't said anything about getting the papers together for the divorce paperwork. Guess he isn't in a rush...???
So I checked my horoscope and it was RIGHT ON for the events that transpired today.
If you go through the town, a journey of a few miles may take ages in the traffic. If you cruise round the big road that runs round the outside of town, you may get there more quickly, even though you cover four times the distance. Assuming, of course, that road works are not causing endless delays. And assuming too, that the town is actually crowded. Don't worry about finding the best way from A to B. Relax. There are upsides and downsides to all options today. The right choice will be the one you end up making.
First I talked to some teachers (THE TOWN) and told them that I would be willing to teach 1st grade if they needed me...but since there was no word from the principal, I thought maybe I should just "wait and see" because I could just stay in second grade...and someone else would be moved.
Then I decided that I needed to directly tell the principal (I CRUISED AROUND THE TOWN) that I would be willing because I realized I could find out sooner than later if I go to the source. The funny thing is that she now knows and approves, but can't tell me if she will switch me until they call all 105 students' parents to make sure the students are still showing up. (ROAD WORKS...which can cause delays!) And yes, there were upsides to staying in 2nd but like I said, the upsides to staying in 1st actually are better! I feel confident this is the right decision. (MY INTUITION!)
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wow interesting stuff there on the horoscope. I hardly ever check mine...and it's hardly true for me but sometimes it is...kinda like a lotto ticket
Great to hear the principal is onboard with your request to teach the 1st grade class! D6 is starting first grade next week at a new school. I hope she loves it...I know she will
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Sorry, not to bore you with school stuff but turns out I am teaching 1st grade AND my principal said I had to switch classrooms!!
So I spent 8-6:30 moving (I had a 40 minute break in there somewhere) and the whole staff helped me move furniture and the stuff. But the new classroom had to be "gutted" so all of that stuff went into the hall. And the stuff from my previous classroom also went into the hall. All mixed together. now I am looking at a long weekend of unpacking, setting up bulletin boards and signs, etc. labeling everything (what I would have completed TODAY but can't until maybe Saturday and Sunday due to unpacking).
BUT I WILL STILL GO TO THE MEETUP on Saturday night. In fact, I might just choose a guy, see if he thinks I am cute, and then make out with him, lol! Sorry, am very stressed and want a break.
I will give a full report on Sunday of how the meetup went. OK going to check threads....
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That completely stinks! I understand the frustration, but hopefully once everything is unpacked and set-up 1st grade will be much better for you.
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