I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[ImprovedRomeo]

You're supposed to leave the P_ _ _ _ _ _ _ (the unmentionables LOL) behind! Or at least that's what they show in the movies.

Has never happened to me but if it did I'm totally putting them up on ebay the next morning! hey money's tight these days

[newmama]

haha Romeo!

Well S and I are meeting a friend and her kids to go to an amusement park. I realize he won't be able to go on the rides but hopefully my friend will watch him for a second while I get to go on some rides, lol!

I might go on the rollercoaster...it isn't a big one...just trying to overcome some fears.

But for who? Me or some guy? I don't know. Just want to be fun and want to be able to do that stuff with S. I guess by the time he is old enough to do it, I could be with someone else and HE could take S, lol!

[newmama]

Well, I DO want another man in my life, and I WILL have another man so I am comfortable planning the future with that thought in mind.

I walked into the amusement park and immediately had flashbacks of when I was 10, riding the spider, and hating it! I decided then and there that there is plenty to do in life besides go on amusement park rides (although I think I could do the spider again when S is older). So I decided to not pressure myself to overcome that fear. And then I felt relief! Even with a boyfriend, oh well...how often do you go on rollercoasters (like the REAL ones,lol!) when you are with someone?

No, haven't heard from him since the text yesterday but am not concerned in the least. Date by date or not at all- am proud of myself for having this mindset. And frankly, I DID think it would be respectful to hear from him the morning after and he contacted me so now I feel fine. After all, he is meeting with his exgirlfriend this week so I might not "see" him again- I do know I will get my ring back, though! I wish I didnt leave it but oh well- it was accidental...

am looking forward to an evening where I will work out, take a bath, put away laundry...just take it easy.

[bluestar]

Wow. I missed alot today, NM. I'm really impressed how you handled "the movie". I don't know if I mentioned it before but the marriage I'm DBing is #2. When my first marriage ended(no DBing, multiple A's and abuse), I was so unnerved by going out again that I totally freaked out the first time my bf and I "saw a movie". Poor guy, he was so sweet but I couldn't see him again.

Great attitude! Have fun.

[Mrs. A]

Two quick things:

1) I got a right-hand ring too! LOVE it and wore it to my final divorce hearing - BEEEEAAATTCH! (Self-reflection - I may never be mature....)

2) The movie at home thing was how Mr. A first kissed me, but we didn't go all the way that night. I love staying in and watching a movie - as long as it's with a hot guy who is romancing the heck out of me!!!!!!

[newmama]

ladies--you are terrific!

OK just finished working out for an HOUR! (boo yah or whatever they say!) and am going to pour myself a glass of wine while soaking in the tub. I think I will listen to John Mayer!
(Calgon, take me away!)

But while I was working out, I watched "It's Complicated" for a second time. WOW, the perspective is so different from watching it back in January or whenever. If I wasn't too embarassed, I would search through my threads to see what my take was on it the first time.

So this time, all the BS that Jake (Alec Baldwin's character) is telling Jane (Meryl Streep) is sooo blatantly obvious! But there are a few moments that stand out like how they can reminisce (sp) about stuff, how they still "know" each other's habits, and how she said to her shrink "I just need someone to TELL ME EXACTLY what to do!" when trying to figure out if she should continue her affair with her exH. Man, can't we relate to that one?(being TOLD what to do in gray sitches) I know I wanted that "post" stbxh telling me he was uncertain about D-ing, and man, do I have an awesome shrink as well!

oh and am halfway through it....still more to watch. Steve Martin's character admits 2.5 years post divorce he still is recovering. Damn, I will NOT be ruminating and analyzing and pining for stbxh in 2012! Heck no!

[Mystik]

Nothing really to add, but I'm still reading and following along. I got myself a ring, too, but I wear it on my left hand. Now I don't feel so naked.

[newmama]

Wow, I wonder how many of us women bought rings? Interesting!

It was my friend's idea, actually, not mine!

Gabbysmom, I WILL ALWAYS feel sick when I think of stbxh and OW! Like I told him over a year ago, I will never accept it, I KNOW it will end, and when he dumps her and finds the next girlfriend, I will accept her with open arms! (I think I will be able to since she wasn't the selfish screwed up witch who was a willing participant in ruining 3 people's lives....and her own).


Well the bath was lovely! Am so relaxed and am watching Hell's Kitchen instead of putting away my laundry. Eh, who cares if it waits another day, you know? BUT WHAT SUCKS is that I recorded Hell's Kitchen (the season finale) and when I turned on the TV it was showing who won the whole thing! So I found out the winner accidentally before watching the show!

[awest1217]

I love Hell's Kitchen!

I am also with you about the OW. Only with H she is also married so she not only ruined my life, S's life (which is the one I care about the most), but also her H as well. Stupid women!

I have not gotten a ring yet, but I am planning on getting one once I see how much the D is going to cost. I am planning on getting a ring to symbolize my commitment to S by getting our birth stones (sapphire and diamond).

Have a great day today!

[newmama]

Awest, your idea for a ring is terrific! I need to look up the birthstone for July (isn't it terrible that I don't know?).

My ring is from JCPenney; got it on sale for $68, originally $300 something. It reminds me of a "crown!" I have a picture of it that I should post on FB, lol. Dang, I miss it actually. But I know I will get it back!

You know, it really is a gooood thing that I have time in between seeing zoobrew because it helps me to keep my mindset and not to get attached!

GM, You are right. I have summers off, being a teacher, so I see S during the day every day although I have been taking him to daycare MWF for 4 hours to get him used to it. Also, I will be using that time to set up in my classroom, like today.

and I have been a SAHM this last year. Here is the current schedule for stbxh:
Mon: 5-8
Tues:5 p.m. overnight to Wed 6:30 a.m.
Thurs:5 p.m. overnight to Fri 6:30 a.m
Sat: 1 p.m. to Sun 1 p.m.

When I return to work in a couple of weeks, it will be:

Tues overnight 5 p.m. to Wed 6 a.m. (he might drop him off at daycare; I don't know yet)

Thurs: 5-8

Sat: 2 p.m. to Sun 1 p.m.

We will need to figure out the weekend thing a little more, I think. But luckily, stbxh is flexible and so am I.