I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[courageous wife]

Geez NM...I take a break from the boards for a couple of days and it took me that long to catch up with just YOU!!!

You are sounding very good!

[awest1217]

It is so hard to let them go the first day, but it does get easier. S has a hard time about one month every new school year. He loves being at school and is fine once I leave the daycare, but it is just sad to hear him cry. Now S goes where I worked through college so I have full faith in the workers there because I know them personally.

Good for you though that you are helping him adjust early. Just remember it will get easier.

[newmama]

S loved my pot roast! (so much that he rubbed it in his hair, too!)I want to be the mom who cooks well so that when he grows up he says "nobody can cook like my momma!"

HOWEVER I am realistic and will settle for a couple of famous dishes, like brownies or enchiladas or something, lol!


Awest, luckily S was happy by the time I arrived so I hope Wed will be better.

BobbiJ --- ok that made me laugh so hard!!! That guy had to be joking!!!

[WhatNow]

I think it is ok to wait between dates. Yes, it is a game, but if you are not immediately available and make them wait 3 or 4 days, it makes you more interesting.

People always want what they can't have/what everyone else wants....iPhone4, iPads, newmama, etc.

I spent the afternoon looking for an Evo phone. WOuld I settle for a lesser, immediately available model? Heck no.

(p.s.: I would never accept a date for Sat after Wed. either. Guys caught on early to 'book' me early. H had to wait 3 weeks for our 1st date)

[BobbiJo]

NM sadly I don't think he was joking! When I first signed on to Match I had the most random experiences. A few started wanting to do text sex starting with day 2 of chatting! Ick. So not my style. Being outgoing and somewhat flirty by nature I think it allowed them to think they had more to gain from me than they did...I have backed off drastically and now am sporadically emailing one man while he is off on reserve training. Gotta like a man in uniform.

Your food sounds awesome! I have gotten lazy this summer but need to step it up with my kids. Mine love my mostaccioli, homemade pancakes/french toast, and tollhouse cookie bars. They like a pretty limited menu...

[newmama]

CW, I didn't see you! I am going to your thread next--

WN, you know what I'm talking about. People would NOT be into a person calling them up to say hi every couple days or daily, someone who gives it all up in the beginning, and always being free. There would be no challenge, no mystery, less appeal....also, we would be training them not to try hard and not to think ahead and plan! They would say "oh, Newmama will be free this weekend, so I can just wait until Thurs or Fri to ask her out. We can just rent a movie, she's easy...in more ways than one." (hey for zoobrew I am! lol! but not for my next boyfriend, que piche?)

Bobbi J,what is mostoccioli? It sounds delicious! ANd fun to say!

Red, wow, you have good will power, holding out for 3 years! Of course it might be 3 years for me, too, lol!

[BobbiJo]

Ok 1st--I made my husband/now ex wait 2 1/2 years before we had sex. Granted he didn't push me as I made it clear I wouldn't sleep with him unless/until I knew I wanted to marry him. Also we started going out when I was 16 1/2 so I was 19 and he was 20 when it finally happened.

Basically my pasta is something I made up but I am sure other people make it too, it's not that difficult! I noticed when I made a pan of lasagna half or more would go to waste. Also I had to cut it up a ton for my little ones to be able to eat it...


So I started making mostaccioli instead. I make my meat sauce layer, and I stir penne pasta into it (the little, 1" or so tubes with grooves on the sides). In a casserole dish I just alternate layers of meat/pasta with layers of mozzarella cheese (you could use mozzarella alone or mix it with ricotta or cottage cheese). So I just alternate the two layers in a casserole and bake it for 30 minutes. The kids love it and find it 'easier' to eat than lasagna. I like it because it is pretty fast and simple.

[newmama]

Wow, BobbiJ, what a clever recipe idea! I will be borrowing that one...

Today was fun and we had a spur of the moment change of plans! S and I met my sister for lunch...we were driving back when she said "so what now?"

Originally, I had to get S home by 5ish so stbxh could pick him up, but he texted me to say that he was going to be late due to his change of flight.

So I had more time on my hands. I brainstormed a little then realized that we hadn't been on the jetboat yet and it was something I wanted to do this summer. So my sister was up for it and since she had a touch phone, she called them up, we got reservations and were on our way!

Since I had a membership to the science museum which was next to the dock for the jetboat, we were able to go in there for free before boarding. Now, I had dressed S in jeans because it was chilly earlier in the afternoon. I also didnt' have diapers but did have some swim diapers.

So the boat did say babies could board. I rolled up S' jeans, sprayed sunblock on him and we waited in line. People sure were shocked to see me bring a baby on board! But I had been on the jetboat 2x before, so I knew what to expect. I didn't have a hat for him and he pulls them off anyway, but I sprayed sunscreen on his scalp. Luckily, a nice Russian woman (seriously!) was on board and offered me a scarf to cover his head! He let me put it on.

He started to fuss while we were waiting but as soon as we got going(he had a life jacket on and I was holding him in my lap) he settled down.

There were some violent spins of course and I held on to him tight, thinking "dang it; if stbxh were with me he would be holding S" but it was fine. At the end, the people around said "wow, he is brave! He did great! good for you for bringing him!"

Then we headed back to drop off my sister, stopped for dinner at a DQ, and stbxh met us in the driveway. UNFORTUNATELY, the swim diapers SUCK and he peed through 3 of them, including his pair of rolled of jeans! Seriously! It made me feel grossed out by all the swim classes I participated in with S and the other babies...peeing through the diapers!

Wow, I am tired for some reason!

[newmama]

Oh and I texted Rugby this a.m. to say hello (since we are going to go out maybe on Thursday). He replied and said "you always make me smile when I hear from you!"

I didn't acknowledge that one...but made some other comment and he asked my plans for the day. At that time, all I knew was we were meeting my sister for lunch. He replied and added "I would love to go to lunch...with you!"

So again, I didn't respond to that comment but said something else and asked him if we were still on for Thursday.

I haven't heard anything since!

Someone tell me...is it me or is he coming on strong?

[newmama]

Yippee I am eligible for a new phone (ANDROID?!? I would love to have access to the internet and look up traffic, nearby restaurants, etc!) and I found out that I can claim head of household on my w-4 as well as child tax credit...yippee! I am doing automatic savings deduction luckily but this means I can still go out to dinner or buy clothes as needed in addition to the practical stuff.