OK so tell me-- now that zoobrew has called me again, is it ok now if I text zoobrew and tell him that the kayak tours are open Mon or Thurs? For Mon, there are only a couple of spots left. For Thurs, it is wide open.
Last night he asked me a few q's about it, I said "I don't know. I haven't called them yet!" and he teased me "well aren't you a wealth of information!"
On MY end, I need to preserve babysitting for Monday but don't need to if it is Thursday.
OK because I am not looking for my next long term boyfriend (???right???) (but I LIKE HIM, DAMN IT!)I am thinking it might be ok if I don't follow the rules all the time? damn this crap!
I will listen to you! Advise please....
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I think I am too old-fashioned to help with advice in the dating area...I still believe in letting them pursue you but today with texting and everything else...IDK!!!
And, I don't think there is anything wrong with keeping in touch with your SIL...in fact, I think it is great! Will be good for your S in the future in helping him stay in touch with your H's family and once you are D'd, she will just be your friend!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Thank you all for chiming in! Mystik, I haven't achieved full detachment yet...I still love that tool douche idiot...but am moving on if by moving on it means the act of moving, lol!
So I didn't check my thread in time to see your advice but after I posted, I called my grandma who is 81. I told her the deal- that the days are filling up so I will need to reserve. I asked her if I should text zoobrew the info-would that be pursuing? Well, my old fashioned grandma said "go ahead! You know he is interested, you talked about it last night, you are going to do it next week. So there is no problem with sending him a text!"
And she even gave me a sample phrase "something like fyi, these are the days available. Let me know which ones you can do."
She had no hesitation or reservation about it, so I decided to take her advice and sent him this text:
(btw the previous night, he asked me a lot of questions about the place and I didn't have answers so he teased me, saying "Well aren't you a wealth of information!" so in the text I was detailed on purpose!)
"Hi zoobrew! I contacted the kayak place and they have space for Mon(leaving at 8) or Thurs(leaving at 6). ..leaving from the Marina at___. Talk to you soon!"
So he IMMEDIATELY texts me back "Cool! Monday work for you? :)"
I reply "Yes! I will get babysitting :)"
him: "Sounds like a plan, Stan! ;)"
me: "Terrific! If you can call me tomorrow I can fill you in on details ;)"
him: "With pleasure chica!"
So phew! Rugby might be calling me today. We are going out on Tuesday night...I need to work out extra to keep up with all of the eating and drinking!
Now I am going to mentally prepare for rejection so that when it happens, I won't be too disappointed, especially since I am not ready for a long term relationship!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
