Yes I definately will have to get out if the weather is good and get some walking done - 90 days till baby comes and I want to make sure I am healthy so I can handle her needs alone! It kills me how I sat here last night and listened to him tell me that he doesnt see how I am going to do it alone - and he is never coming back and has to get an apartment so has no money to help- I said well that is your choice you did not have to leave here....all on deaf ears I suppose- almost wish it was another woman then it would at least make sense to me....now it is just a confusing blame game pointing the finger ...
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He has been contacting me much more and even said he loves me and always will but I wonder what does that mean. He has not come right out and said divorce and I avoid the topic of divorce like the plague. He said he hopes the baby has his skin and he said that when it is just he and I together it is great but what does that mean? I had the kids when he married me and it wasnt a problem at all then - and he has told me about some of the problems he is having with his own son and when I advised him to go to counseling with his son he actually scheduled an appointment and went about that ...not about our marriage....he has said he is going to start buying stuff for the baby so I am just trying to start looking at these as the baby steps michelle talks about and stay positive but it is killing me still and every day the ticker says 8- days till pregancy is over. He suggested a name for the baby and I said that would be a good name for her which did seem to please him and he refers to her as that now.....not sure if I should keep doing what I am doing or just take a wait and see....should I try to move forward in some other way ....I am getting more and more tired every day just a combination of pregancy and stress I am sure.....
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I don't understand our WAS's. tehy love us but at the same time they left? I am here 6 months later and still dont know what to make of anything... every one says to let them go and that H has to go through his own journey, even though we see and know it to be a mistake or feel we have waht it takes to make it work. Easier said than done. I do know one thing... none of this is because of YOU. Your WH seems to have his own issues and suggesting counseling for him is not a bad idea.
Wish I had magic fairy dust to sprinkle on them and make them come to their senses!
MOG, hello. First of all, please break your posts up into paragraphs so it's easier for us all to read. Sorry you find yourself here but you will find some great advice. There are several women who either are or have been left while pregnant.
No matter what your H thinks he is responsible for half your household expenses no matter where he lives. He can't leave you with no support, especially if he is leaving all the children wtih you. It sounds like you need some legal help in this area. This does not mean you have to file for D but you need a temporary support order. By the way, this is not a threat. It is a fact. What makes him think he can just leave you with all the responsibilty and walk away scot free?
I would bet serious $ that there already is another woman involved at some level and has been for some time. Unfortunately, it's hard to gather intel when he's already moved out. My H took our separation as permission to date, which of course it's not.
Keeps insisting that its not me but the kids disrespect that caused him to leave which is really hard for me to address- in paticular my 14 year old son he says disrespected him and he says he almost lost himself. He said he still loves me doesnt want me to be with anyone else but doesnt want to come back to live with us ....so hard to understand what is going on....
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