I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[Mystik]

De-lurking to say your post about MLC was like a lightbulb going on for me. It fits H perfectly. Do you mind if I copy it into my thread for me to reference to?

[newmama]

Mystik- I got that from Hearts Blessing's sermons- sorry I didn't copy the link or reference her! But of course you can copy it!

[courageous wife]

I don't think my H had a bad childhood either...his parents worked hard but were never rich...I don't think that they ever even owned a home....just rented and moved many times.

Apparenlty a life transition happens every 7-10 yrs. Becoming a father may have triggered your H...who knows? My H had one in 2001 when he quit his job of 20yrs after turning 40 and the medicated with a OW for a short time and now, 9yrs later he is doing the same thing after turning 50 with OW only this one must not be as psycho (yet) as the first one since it has been over a year.

I have been advised that IF he does want to come home some day, that I have him seek counseling to work on coping skills!!!!

I am going to post something to you on the alt!

[newmama]

Thanks Gabbysmom for stopping by! You sound strong and maybe even healed? I guess we all get there in our own time and I know I will. But it hasn't been a week since he gave the papers to me so I think I have some time to serve...

about the ring- I haven't worn it for over a year! I think I will just stow it away, one day using the diamonds to get a new one made of some other design.

[job]

Here is the link to the mlc posting. I believe you will find it to be interesting.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...ge=74#Post67406

[newmama]

CW- thanks for the message and I have been trying to reply but FB is down. (I actually think FB often has lots of malfunctions!)
So I saved the message and will be replying when FB works again!

awesome link though...

[courageous wife]

You are welcome! We have been having thunderstorms and lost 2 posts when the power flickered on and off...grrr!!!

The link that snodderly posted has some very good information on it!!!!

[newmama]

thanks, snodderly-I will check it out!
CW- I still can't "reply" to you on FB and I want to! I received your last message but the reply button didn't work. if you have email you can send me the address (I have a separate one through gmail- newmama319 at gmail.com) or I guess I can be patient and send you the reply later.

OK am in need of a yummy "filling" for a 2 layer cake that I need to make for my cake decorating class. The icing is just buttercream, the cake is just white. I guess I could add a flavoring to the cake but it can't turn a color!

[newmama]

wow- there is a recipe for kool-aid frosting- what a great idea, seriously! If you want to make a kid cake or you want a strong flavored frosting of some kind, use a packet of kool-aid!

but I think I will settle for the cookies-n-creme- filling idea. I saw a fancy recipe for vanilla pastry creme filling and then an ingenious one using instant pudding but substitute heavy cream for half of the milk! Jello makes a cookies n creme pudding now so there I have it.

just sharing!

[newmama]

uh-oh, snodderly I am sooo sorry! I think the information about midlife crisis that I copied and pasted was from your post, not heartsblessing's sermon! I didn't mean to cite the wrong person.

Thank you for sharing the link. I guess if he ends up marrying the OW like gabby'smom's exH, it doesn't really matter to me why he flipped out. But at least MLC makes more sense than him being abducted by an alien!