Of course she didn't contact you today. She knows you are angry. The text she sent you seemed to indicate a willingness to talk to you. Your return text to her was full of emotion.
v1, I agree with Glimmerman that she knows you're upset and she'll keep her distance but eventually she'll want to talk about it. However, I think you do need to go dark on her, even if she tries to contact you, you should ignore it. Now that you let her know (and I see nothing wrong with it) how you feel about it she needs to simmer in her guilt (if there is any). She will feel guilty and to ease her guilt and only to ease her guilt she will contact you but like I said you will be unavailable (not a peep) as she can't know (nor does she deserve to) how you're feeling and if you're good/not-good/ok etc. It's her time to mind read and analyze stuff. If she contacts you multiple times then only then you should respond but keep it generic (no emotions).
At least that's what I would do...
Hang in there! you've done the hardest thing most of us will ever do and you made it out alive. Things will start getting better for you from now on- just give it time.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
She may think I am angry but I did not feel like my texts were angry. Just very sad and dissapointed. She might think I am going to be angry forever unless I start talking to her again. Any thoughts on that?
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
A confident man with a woman who has betrayed him, ditched him and then divorced him DOES NOT care about what SHE thinks. At this point in the game of life the odds are pretty good that she does not give a rat's butt about what HE thinks. Her mind is on her own self, her pleasures and desires.
It's a sad fact but one you need to come to grips with.
IF she ever changes her mind she will come to you to look for either closure or to sniff your butt to see if you're still interested.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
A confident man with a woman who has betrayed him, ditched him and then divorced him DOES NOT care about what SHE thinks. At this point in the game of life the odds are pretty good that she does not give a rat's butt about what HE thinks. Her mind is on her own self, her pleasures and desires.
Sad, harsh and absolutely 100% truth.
((((Hugs))))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
My old self was somewhat dark and angry and I am trying not to go there again. It is very easy for someone to give up on their positive changes post divorce. When I asked that question above I had myself in mind more than my exW.
BUT... Gnosis and Serenity, you are 100 percent right about what you say. She is only concerned about herself and probably has been for the last few years. Now it is my turn.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Glad to hear it v1...things will start to get better for you and worse for her. The see-saw effect.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
