Andabelle I don't pay XH anything for D14 he pays me (and will have to until she is 19). Now that S17 has come home he will have to pay me more for her. If she stops going there he will have to pay double as at the moment he only pays me for the time she is here with me.
On a 'serious' note; XHs really do have it tough - I just found out from D14 that the car that XH bought (and then screwed me over in the D over it's worth by saying he only owned a third of it) is off the road. Apparently the radiator blew up yesterday. Poor old XH had to go to work on the bus this morning.
Meanwhile I have it so tough. I gained three staff members today
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I knew it was too good to be true that my life was finally heading in the right direction.
Last night S17 and his GF 19 announced she is pregnant. I'm devastated but thankfully managed to behave in what I hope was a supportive way. I believe the opposite can be said about GFs mum. They want to keep it............. this young girl is just about to go to university, my son has no job etc etc.
Not sure I have the strength deal with this after all that has happened in the last 5 yrs.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Hon, your life is still heading in the right direction. Why? you ask, because this is about S17 and his choices. It is his life. Be supportive but this doesn't need to shake your world upside down. It will only if you let it.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
This is nothing compared to what you have been through. You will handle it like a pro.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I agree, this is about your son and his GF. You can only support what further choice they make about the baby, and hope it's something you would choose if in a similar position.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I know this about S17 and his GF BUT both only have part time jobs. Her mother is threatening to disown her if she goes ahead with the pregnancy and they have already asked if the '3' of them can live here. That will impact significantly on me in a financial way. I made it quite clear to S17 that D20s help with uni has to be MY priority and he didn't like this but he calmed down a little when i pointed out that MY children who are already born and needing help are MY priority and that whilst I would never not help where I could HIS child was NOT my responsibility.
that sounds horrible but he needs to face the stark truth of what he might be about to let himself in for.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
