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Lmao! I know huh! It did feel very normal. We had the awkward first handshake, hug goodbye, and it was normal. Not a bunch of emotional bullsnit. No whoa is me, I ended up having to raise my son, my ex left me, nothing. It was peacefully normal!


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Hooray for LolaL!


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Yeah! Sounds good! Oh let me tell you, when you have been in a messed up relationship for so long, and then you have a normal, good one... wow. It's a major wake up call!

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Originally Posted By: LolaL
Lmao! I know huh! It did feel very normal. We had the awkward first handshake, hug goodbye, and it was normal. Not a bunch of emotional bullsnit. No whoa is me, I ended up having to raise my son, my ex left me, nothing. It was peacefully normal!


LolaL,

Describe how does it feel?

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and then you have a normal, good one... wow. It's a major wake up call!


Hmmmm...what is normal? grin


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I am hoping I will recognize normal when I see it...


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LOL! I had to learn! I was like, woah! This is what I was supposed to be doing all these years! This is how other people live! Hahaha.


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I heard this song, and thought of the SG.

Now that it's all said and done,
I can't believe you were the one
To build me up and tear me down,
Like an old abandoned house.
What you said when you left
Just left me cold and out of breath.
I fell too far, was in way too deep.
Guess I let you get the best of me.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I'm slowly getting closure.
I guess it's really over.
I'm finally getting better.
And now I'm picking up the pieces.
I'm spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through,
I got over you.

You took a hammer to these walls,
Dragged the memories down the hall,
Packed your bags and walked away.
There was nothing I could say.
And when you slammed the front door shut,
A lot of others opened up,
So did my eyes so I could see
That you never were the best for me.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I'm slowly getting closure.
I guess it's really over.
I'm finally getting better.
And now I'm picking up the pieces.
I'm spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through,
I got over you.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I'm slowly getting closure.
I guess it's really over.
I'm finally getting better.
And now I'm picking up the pieces.
I'm spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
Well I'm putting my heart back together,
'Cause I got over you.
Well I got over you.
I got over you.
'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through,
I got over you.


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Yep. I love Daughtry.


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Normal. What is normal?

I agree I am not sure there is such a thing, especially after what we have all been through. I am definitely healed, but do I still carry scars? You betcha.

Normal for me was sitting out in the sun with a man my age having a nice lunch. There was no need to force conversation, it was two people getting to know each other. I don’t know whether or not we will go out again. That’s okay because it was a date. Nice, normal.

I think we have all gotten dragged into our WAS’s b/s whoa is me, the world is out to get me. For me I know I did. Do I still love the SG? Yeah, but I have accepted that I always will, but that I have this huge heart that can love more.

I don’t think that the SG is ever going to change. He is always going to play the victim, and really believe that everyone is out to get him. I don’t foresee him ever really taking a close look in the mirror and realizing that he has no one to blame but himself. I find it incredibly sad that he will not allow someone to get close enough to point that out. As far as I am concerned, I have spent much to long worrying about him, what he is doing, if he is getting enough sleep, enough food, whether he needs help w/ school.

Personally that came out of the blue. About 10 days ago. All of a sudden, I was just done. That was it…it was all I could take, and I have not spoken to him since.

And I am better for it.


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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