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Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
Like they say, in the battle you are in with her at this stage - "the one who cares least wins".


But what does he win?

Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
If you can find a way to "knock" her out of the mentality without touching her, that will be in your advantage.


Yes, because if you try to "knock" her out of that mentality by touching her, that's likely to be considered physical violence.

If this is the kind of advice you've been getting, OIN, then I wish you well in your rapidly-approaching divorce.


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

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TrentC,

OIN's gotten plenty of advice, some of it "good" and some of it "bad", but effective. In some cases our wives are working out of a "bad" realm, and attempts to woo them back doing "good" usually does not work, and we just get taken advantage of.

Of course I would never tell anyone to hit their wife.

Oh, what do we win when we realize that the battle our wife is having us in is "issuance of damage"... I'm not sure we win anything good. Maybe you win a broken heart and a wayward spouse and if your smart a divorce.

I hope the best for you and that she comes back around, you sound like a very good man.

Last edited by DaddyLongShanks; 04/12/10 02:01 PM.
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