Miss H, the big new house and truck he bought are all assets! LOL He doesn't stand a chance. The judge will ask him how he can afford those things on half a salary. Subpeona the Uncle, pull his W-2's, and raise the stakes by asking for more support. My philosophy is, keep hitting until they stop hitting back! Bust him right in the chops!!!
The last time ex took me to court to do the same thing, I hit him hard. Analyzed his financials and exposed the amount of money he was making. I agree with braveheart, the harder you come down on him the more likely he will leave you alone. I did not talk to him during this process and had no eye contact with him in court. I also took my father to the proceedings and he did the same thing. Ex could not understand why everyone was "so mean to him". I have not heard from him since and it is a blessing.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
The family court judge's clerk actually called me today.
He wanted to know if I recieved all the payments yet.
I told him no and told him about only recieving 50 dollars as a support payment.
He said that the judge is very concerned I haven't received the payments so he had just left a message for ex's lawyer advising him to read his client the riot act and get those payments to me immediately or else he will appear before the judge next week in court.
I thanked the clerk and told him I appreciated it.
He said, "Your welcome, I just wanted to let you know we are taking care of it and not ignoring your situation".
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Miss H, you are very much in the driver's seat, don't let him or his B.S. get you all messed up, get your ducks in a row and bust his chops! Please ask for an increase!! Don't have any pity or mercy for him! He started it, you finish it!!
Andabelle, I hope it's him that will have to sell things and not me!
BH, don't worry, I no longer have any pity on him. I am no longer in love with him so I don't worry about what he thinks about me. It's such a great feeling to be able to do something and not care what he thinks. And if that makes me out to be a B*tch to some, too damn bad!
My dear you are far from a bitch. You are protecting your children, that is what us mommy's do. When you come to the point of not caring what he thinks, you will see a change in his behaviors.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ms. H, Why would you even care what he thinks of you? Look at how he has behaved and treated you throughout all of this. You've been a very classy lady and I would step right on the train and say that you are far, far from being a xitch.
Don't give another thought to what he thinks...he's the one that has to look in the mirror and figure things out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
