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Jack - if you could direct the hispanic ladies my way I would appreciate it. Trust me. From a cultural perspective, I may be percieved as a weakling right now but who know man...who knows. This is the struggle I have. My MIL and FIL who have both told my wife she is nuts are aware of the first EA and they understand what I am doing but say I should confront. I did for the first EA but it did nothing. My MC says I should not bother so I would really like to hear from one of your ladies to get their take.


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Already asked. : ) It might take some time.

I'm too whitebread in many aspects. However...their advice is BAD based upon MLC advice.



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While I understand the cultural differences, being only 2nd generation in this country myself, I am going to ask…

Is it better to be a Hispanic man who is divorced or a man who rose above what other people might think of him and has a happy M down the road?

Only you can decide that….



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Thanks Jack - Appreciate it. All of W friends are spanish and although I am Puerto Rican I'm more of an American. I like Latin music but prefer Creed (The song Time from the new album is great). The OM is by the way born and bred in Puerto Rico and is a member of severl latin groups. W is a pure PR and loves latin music and food.

On an aside and on a more postive note - I just picked up 4 free tickets to a hockey game. I'm taking the kids on Saturday. Skybox seats...I think they are nice. Also, I have another dance class on Friday evening.


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Cat - Trust me...I want to be the happy M man who stood above all of this. I know I will but I just can't see or better yet "feel" that just yet.

My spirtiual side tells me to walk in faith not by sight or by feelings. As you can imagine this is tough. But you've said best I need to focus on me and kids right now. Are you on the Alt?


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Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
On an aside and on a more postive note - I just picked up 4 free tickets to a hockey game. I'm taking the kids on Saturday. Skybox seats...I think they are nice. Also, I have another dance class on Friday evening.


Nice!!

Keep getting out like this. This is one avenue you take to help you get back you.


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I don't think MLC knows any cultural differences. On another board I am on I have spoken to a man from an arab nation whose wife is in MLC. There they are not allowed to get D, so it is very interesting.
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Are you on the Alt?
Yes she is, so am I. The ? is are you?


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OP - I will be tonight. I need to set it up. I do not want to use my existing one because I am not sure how to hide stuff. I'll try though.


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I am not referring to the MLCer.

I am refering to the culture of the LBS.
For example, does Eric's 'machismo' suffer in the eyes of friends and family for correctly doing MLC DBing?
Is THAT going to work against him?

I think advice from some very strong women of similar cultures might help.



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Jack / Cat - Any advice I can get from any other NY Rican (born and bred on the upper west side) would be appreciated.

Jack - I believe you live where.."I can see Russia from my house" - correct? If I'm getting to personal LMK.

Trying to have a little humor - it beat cryin'.


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