Just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas....

[brandnewday]

Yes...the above couple of posts are soooo true!!!

God also gave us a mind and a brain to think with. By allowing your WAS to be your only reason for living you will stop living for yourself and making yourself happy.

I have posted this before and I will tell you again. As hindsight is 20/20.

I wasted so much of my time when my Husband was gone, that I missed out on many opportunities to better myself. I lived in fear of making choices that would push my WAS away. I wanted to go back to school and had the chance to do so. BUT as it was always something my Husband didn't think was a good idea I chose not to rock the boat.

I have countless examples of things I did wrong, I am definately not the DB posterchild. But My Husband did come home eventually.

And the piecing is hard work, in fact it is harder to have them home again then when they were away.

Work on your own "stuff" and leave him to God. Dont worry about what he is doing and with whom.

It is good to be on your knees, asking God to restore your Marriage.

It is even better to be on your knees asking God to show you His plan for your "new" life.

Ask Him to direct YOUR path,even if it means your Husband is not included in those plans.

Ask for opportunities and resources to make your life wonderful.

Ask for wisdom and clarity.

Learn to be still, and the answers will fall into your lap.

[MidwesternGirl]

Just checking in to see how many of you are doing.

D17 was accepted into the college she has been wanting to attend and we are getting her prepared for that and have filed all the paperwork for financial aid, etc. She is looking forward to it and I am happy for her. She will be all the way across the country but that's okay as she has several friends who attend or are attending the same school.

I am having some health issues that have prevented me from seeking a job let alone much of anything.

H has had no contact with any of us but he seems to be communicating with S19 a little more these days. S19 visited him about a week or so ago for the first time in a few months. Said H had a very boring holiday and asked what we did. Other than that, just busy with school stuff.

[forward]

MWG, Thanks for posting an update--those of us who've been around a while do feel an affinity for each other.

I'm glad that your D was accepted to the school she wants to go to, too. That's a big deal.

I hope you are taking gentle care of yourself. {{{MWG}}}

[braveheart]

Congrats to your daughter getting into her college choice, I know she has to be excited about that.

[forward]

Checking on MWG. Hope things are a bit easier for you these days.

[MidwesternGirl]

Thanks for checking on me, forward.

I've been ill for some time and it has prevented me from job hunting in a big way. The bank is requesting a lot more in the way of monthly payments which they know we cannot afford and I am trying to work that out. To move into an apt. is not really any cheaper than being in a house.

Kids are okay--very busy.

H--haven't talked to him in ages, the girls have not seen him since the first week of July, and he continues to sit over there and is very unhappy as per my son. H's car still not running either.

[braveheart]

MWG, What is the nature of your illness? Do you have it under control?

[MidwesternGirl]

Muscular and joint issues. Trying some things to get it under control.

[iluvme55]

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[MidwesternGirl]

Thanks for the info, IRMAC. I am on Day 3 of Triple Flex which is supposed to work in 7 days.

So far, it is working....keeping my fingers crossed that by Friday, it really kicks in.

I got a free 5-day trial from Costco.