She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Serenity13]

(((Awoken)))

I wanted to check in and see how you are doing today - JG is right, you will never have to have this conversation again and I am glad you can take comfort in that...I was over on a different thread and I posted a verse that seems to fit here as well...

"Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you. Discipline yourselves, keep alert. Like a roaring lion your adversary the devil prowls around, looking for someone to devour. Resist him, steadfast in your faith. . . .
And after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, support, strengthen, and establish you."
1 Peter 5: 7-10

At the beginning of my sitch, I really thought that my faith in God was going to be extinguished, and I'm finding it getting stronger everyday.

I thought this as well - However I am learning...This is what God is here for - This is His chance to shine - His chance to come in & show you exactly what He is capable of - Remember this isn't our will, this is His will...His will may just be you and your spouse going your separate ways because He has something better for you down the road -

Re-read this - "And after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, support, strengthen, and establish you." - Keep reading it until you truly in your heart believe it...

No suffering is forever though some days it sure feels like it.

(((Hugs)))

[Sister]

it's funny how these lessons just come on us at different times. Serenity gave me a great post about how we all help each other here, even unwittingly. At the beginning of my sitch, I really thought that my faith in god was going to be extinguished, and I'm finding it getting stronger everyday.

I'm so glad to hear this. You'll be surprised what strength you can gain by relying on Him.

"Eyes have not seen, nor ears heard, nor has entered into the hearts of man, those things that God has prepared for those who loves Him." 1Cor2:9

[givingitmyall]

it's funny how these lessons just come on us at different times. Serenity gave me a great post about how we all help each other here, even unwittingly. At the beginning of my sitch, I really thought that my faith in god was going to be extinguished, and I'm finding it getting stronger everyday.

I'm so glad to hear this. You'll be surprised what strength you can gain by relying on Him.

"Eyes have not seen, nor ears heard, nor has entered into the hearts of man, those things that God has prepared for those who loves Him." 1Cor2:9

Man, that's worth saying over and over.

[Awoken]

Re-read this - "And after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, support, strengthen, and establish you." - Keep reading it until you truly in your heart believe it...

You'll be surprised what strength you can gain by relying on Him.
"Eyes have not seen, nor ears heard, nor has entered into the hearts of man, those things that God has prepared for those who loves Him." 1Cor2:9

I've been sitting here reading these two verses over and over. I really needed them tonight. Our home is so sad right now, I need all the strength I can find. All four of us are despairing.

I almost didn't even log in tonight, but somehow felt I needed to. then I almost didn't look at my thread, but somehow felt I should.

Your gifts were here waiting for me.

[kara]

(((Awoken)))

"Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

That verse got me through many a day. Some days I would look at it almost every hour.

Rest assured that God has plans for you. The road may seem rough,rugged and poorly lit but you will see your way out.

[WeldingGuy]

(((Awoken)))

The road may seem rough,rugged and poorly lit but you will see your way out.

What a true statement. For many of us here. And here is another verse that strengthens me:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
-Proverbs 3:5-6

[Ready2Change]

I know you had "the talk". Finnally got caught up.

I thought I had prepared well, but I left out one important thing: "I don't think this is the solution..."

There will be opportunities to state YOUR believes in the future. Your kids need information to form their own belief's. Planting the seeds now will help them when they are adults:

"I don't feel that D is the answer to M problems."

[Ready2Change]

I am so sorry to hear about the pain in your family. Just remember that everything will be OK. Keep standing up for "the right thing". The most important thing for the kids is to have frequent and equal contact with BOTH parents. It falls on your shoulders to make this happen. Keep doing the right thing.

Do work - you can handle it.

[Ready2Change]

Two things that work really well for me:

Stay in the present. ( The past is history, the future is a mystery. The toltec books I have listed got me out of my head and back into the present. I highly recommend reading them.)

Keep your focus on every positive, every moment of the day. Start with enjoying your first three breaths of air. Enjoy the days you are still a single household family. Just because you and W are not getting alone, does not mean you can not enjoy her when she interacts with the kids.

[Awoken]

(((CityGirl)))

Thank you so much for your detailed reply about your own experience with your parents divorce. It gave me a lot to think about.

I've always thought that W and I were a great parenting team, but I see it differently now. My kids HAVE been affected by much of the stuff that has gone on in our home, and I've been in denial about a lot of of it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not beating myself up about this (anymore I hope!. I do need to understand it, and become the best father I can.

Several things you said really resonated with me.

It may take some time but your children will eventually establish a lifelong foundation of respect for the parent who acts like a parent even in the thick of a divorce (that will be you!).

I've certainly got some new challenges as a parent now. Both D17 and S13 are pushing limits, as they deal with our sitch. As STBXW tunes out, both kids know that she is the "yes" person. I know W is dealing with some of the same issues, as the kids are angry with her and she needs/wants their approval.

I'll keep your post in mind as I do what's right, even when the kids don't approve.

(sigh, this was the first time I've used STBXW instead of W)