. . . but I have never yet seen someone who uses the word "cuddle" in their posts, successfully DB their wayward spouse.
Just sayin'.
Puppy
Umm depends I'd venture to say. Especially whether the "cuddle" is directed at the wayward spouse.
Just a random silly Deep moment.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
Oops! I must have happened onto the wrong thread! Butterflymom very successfully cuddled, coddled, loved and had sex with her H all through his affair. And they are reconciled. I guess I didn't cuddle mine back into my life. I took stronger sexual measures. But I outcompeted other woman in the bedroom and my H is now quite happy to be married to me. There are other examples. i think the old adage that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar is a good one.
Oops! I must have happened onto the wrong thread! Butterflymom very successfully cuddled, coddled, loved and had sex with her H all through his affair. And they are reconciled. I guess I didn't cuddle mine back into my life. I took stronger sexual measures. But I outcompeted other woman in the bedroom and my H is now quite happy to be married to me. There are other examples. i think the old adage that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar is a good one.
Interesting. Do you think it's because the WAS in the A was a man? Hence the "cuddling and kernoodling" worked.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I'm with coach. For the man in an A who was physically starved for sex or affection, cuddling by the W can show they are interested and there is hope. For a W who is not starved for sex/affection but starved for deeper emotional needs, cuddling won't do it and makes the H come across as SpinFree said "settling" for "sex-lite." It's unattractive, even repulsive, to W. I've been there with accepting a cuddle instead of sex. No more. In order for my W and I to reconcile, there will be sex, and cuddling is what you do after the main event. I think both POV are correct, cuddling or using the word "cuddle" are both anti DBing.
Just a random silly Deep moment.