So.... someone please tell me how the O/W are bandaids.......I got nosey today and looked her up on the net.....she seems so much more educated.....has a B/A in graphic design...how do I compete with that with myself.....I wish I had not of done that..... I am better than her...I dont get with married men...I dont break up families....I dont just disgard my family like trash.....I am a better person than she will ever be.... I am so much more than she will ever be...... That's what I get for being bored at work......((( sigh)))
A highly educated, upper class morally devoid self entitled person is still a scumbag no matter how many letters are after the name on the embossed business card. IRMAC.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Now, you know the answer to your question....they are there because they are sleazy enough to validate, affirm and adore your h. They are just like a drug to him because he's getting the attention from someone who really doesn't know him and he can sit there and lie till the cows come home or pigs fly. He can rewrite history and make himself out as the victim and she'll just pat him on the back and say, "oh, my, that hussy was so terrible to you. She's validating his fantasy and the rewritten history w/o even knowing the true store. She's fun, she'll use him up, right along w/his money. She's desperate and needy and so is he right now. Two of kind, if you ask me. They are both looking for something and that something cannot be found in material objects...what they are looking for can only be found within..true happiness w/themselves.
You are better than this, so why are you questioning your morals and how you live your life. You are not here to compete w/her. Eventually she will tire of her boy toy. The relationship is too new to end, but at some point it will.
So, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and promise not to snoop again....
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well, let's see...I have a BFA (CumLaude U of Mich) plus Teaching credentials (University of MI),(Magna Cum Laude) MA EdL, Saginaw Vallely State U, and currently finishing my Ed. Specialist at Wayne State University(Magna Cum Laude), and considering my PhD in Visual Fine Arts Education. Teacher of the year for my district 2007. In addition, I sell quite a few pieces of my art in galleries in my state. I can not spell that well, but I love my job AND am about the best "artist" in most of my classes. Even through today....
My H still had a MLC and EA. She is an engineer, but basically had the personality of a bimbo! (she really needed to put her boods back into her shirt, she did)... So how you going to win?
#1. Just because someone is in college, does not mean they are a superior person. #2. Your H affair IS NOT ABOUT YOU. Not about who you are- Don't compare yourself it is like apples to yams-- not to be compared.
You certainly have qualities that I admire, and I am sure that many, many others admire you to. Keep your chin up and your internet off.
Oh honey, my H's OW has yours beat by miles. They're not all bar room skanks. Listen to this:
H's OW has a Masters degree (possibly Ph.D, not sure). She's VICE PRESIDENT of a non-profit organization that offers support for single moms and their children. She's also a huge animal rights activists.
Now on the surface she sounds great right? Well, when the bomb dropped 2 years ago my H freely talked about her - he was so "in love" and I learned this:
She has serious ADHD and OCD issues, she's controlling, neurotic, and a workaholic. She has 12 (yes 12) cats. They all have to be fed a special diet so it takes over an hour to feed them all. She spends most of her money on them as well as feeding half the wildlife in her yard. Also, she will not leave them for more than 3 days in a row - which kind of puts a damper on vacations, etc.
Not that I'm encouraging you to but if you dig a little deeper you would find your H's OW is probably a FREAK too.
Jack says it best:
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A highly educated, upper class morally devoid self entitled person is still a scumbag no matter how many letters are after the name on the embossed business card
and I believe he means - is still a scumbag if they have an A with a married person.
That's the bottom line - bar room skank or Vice President. You're exactly right - you are a better person than she will ever be!
Oh and thanks for posting to my thread. I'll leave an answer for you there.
Stay strong.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
and I learned this:
