MWG, I do believe that you are as stubborn as these MLCers! I can understand leaving your marriage and H to God, but with that being said, I do believe that God has revealed much to you regarding your H and his treatment of you and your family and I am not sure you are listening.......... I mean you said it perfectly yourself "who wants to stay with someone who sits around all day and is doing nothing to find a job" Do be fooled about the OW putting up with that, they are just as stubborn as MLCers and will tolerate behavior like that to prove they can keep them.
First of all, I am not putting up with his not working and let's just agree to disagree with how we handle things and our beliefs.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Forward, what "boundaries" are you talking about? There are mo boundaries, this man left and hasn't come back. How do you impose boundaries on someone like that? MWG, I guess we will have to agree to disagree with our beliefs and what not. I honestly don't see where you are going with things, but I suppose its your business.
Maybe you don't recall this but when he left, I took his key and told him he could not come back.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Checking in on you MWG, I had prayed that things would have much improved for you and your family. I'm sorry that things are so tough. Like I told someone the other day. It's as though life is like a big card game anymore. 3 years ago, God dealt me a new hand. I hated it. I so wanted to quit playing. I finally had to force myself to pick up the hand and do with it the best that I could. Somedays I still don't like it, but I keep playing and life is good.
Going back to something that was said in one of your recent posts. By me being so stuck on hope of R with my x. I now believe that I put my family through so much more hurt and anxiety than had to be. If I could have got my head on straight earlier, put a stop to it all sooner, and moved on without H and his antics. I could have made things easier on those girls. They hurt with every moment I hurt. They went through it all just as I did. We wasted a long time on him and hopes that he'd return. For that, all we got was hurt and it changed nothing. Even though he did not live here. Even if I limited contact. Even if he was cut off from us. He still controlled my every act, thought, feeling. I let him do that. It really really was not worth it in the end. He played me and I let him. I finally decided that I deserved better, my kids deserve better, and MWG so do you.
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
As for the kids, they have told me they prefer the way we are living now. They even say a divorce would make things a lot worse than they are now which I agree with and I have no intentions of filing for a divorce.
We do things and plan things on our own and without him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I am taking things one day at a time. Trusting in God who has provided for us and has never let us down.
Whatever will be will be. It is in God's hands, not mine.
My life is what it is right now. And I accept that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
