MWG, I think you really need to do some serious thinking as to why you would continue to stay in your marriage. Listening to what you said about your H and his attitude toward you and his children really makes my blood cold. The very best thing all of you can do is just cut your ties with this man, at least until he ever comes out of this.
We are holding our own and doing things without him.
He is cut off.
He is cut off from family functions and cut off from knowing all that goes on around here, cut off from holidays, cut off from us financially and is fully dependent on ow for all of his financial needs, if any.
I have way too many other things going on and my marriage and whether or not to stay in it is not up there on my list of to do's. We do not need that added stress.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Happy New Year MWG. It is your h's loss. My h in the past 4 years has been MIA for Christmas and has never wished the kids a Merry Christmas. They need to live their lives. Life is too short to wonder what they are missing.
You are doing good taking care of you and the kids. It is all you have right now.
Cheers,
Glam
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
My daughter also said that when she did talk to him that one time, he sounded just awful--like he was so miserable and did not sound like he was living a happy life.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I think they like to act miserable, it's their game. When I call my H and he answers it's this weird hello? like he has no idea who is calling. On Christmas I forgot my phone in my truck so my sis borrowed me her phone to call H. He answered all cheery and called her by name. Imagine his surprise and the change in his voice when he realized it was me! Same thing when he's home, he will act pouty and miserable. But when he's with other people he can be whitty and charming.
Basically he's a fun loving guy for everyone else but for me acts miserable and toys with my emotions. That's just how I see my H, I don't suppose your H is like that.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
My W is like that. Masked depression. Its still there but they try to hide it from the rest of the world. Since everything is my fault or because she is in comfortable surrounding the mask comes off and the true depression comes thru. At least that is my observation.
MWG, I think you need to realize that your marriage is the source of your family's stress, not the possibility of getting out of it. As far as your h being "cut off" Honey, you can't cut off someone who doesn't care. I think you staying in this marriage is only going to create more hardship for you and your family.
not true at all. the source of the stress is everyday life and what I, myself have to deal with on a daily basis, and it is not HIM.
I am leaving my husband and marriage up to God.
I am not about to end anything,.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I do hope that the new year will bring you and your family some peace, happiness and contentment. I am also hoping that the job situation will get better for you and that the man upstairs will provide a door or a window to open to assist you in saving your home and getting a better vehicle. Miracles do happen each and every day when you least expect them.
Sending you positive thoughts and well wishes.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Believe me when I say I have enough to keep me very busy without having to think about h, and if he were around, it would most likely be very stressful.
He is under a dark cloud right now and there isn't a darned thing anybody can do. He chose this and we are letting him be. These situations do not go on forever and there will come a time when he will get kicked to the curb. I mean really, who wants to live with someone who just sits there all day and is doing nothing to find a job? It will hit him hard because he will have to live in his broken down car in the parking lot, not here.
Like I said, I have enough going on over here.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
