Kids and I had a great time at friends lastnight and will go to another friends today.
Kids have not heard a thing from their dad at all. They have said little things to me about how they have not heard from him, how Christmas just keeps getting worse and worse. I said nothing as I let them talk.
S19 has not heard from his dad for about two weeks now. The girls, that is another story entirely as they have not seen him in over six months let alone speak to him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm so glad that you enjoyed your time with family and friends. That helps create new memories, which is what helps all of us to let go of past memories a little easier. We'll always have those old ones, but new ones are like turning a new page.
I do feel for the kids not hearing from their dad. Regardless of how they try to seem mature about the whole thing, it must still tear them up inside. I'm not entirely sure that WAS are truly ignorant of the hurt they cause...they just like to hide their head and not have to deal with the consequences of their choices/behavior.
Your H, along with other WAS are missing some of the most memorable times of their lives wallowing in the choices they have made. I have no doubt, in the back of their minds, that holidays still bring back memories, and that they still feel the pain of not being part of what they use to have.
But you sure wouldn't want them back until they really understood the importance and blessing of having a loving family and spouse. It's hard to go through holidays without them, but I think it would be worse having them home and them not feeling blessed for what they have.
You're a very strong woman, and your kids are lucky to have one parent that stays true to the course.
Blessings to you and your family now and in the New Year.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
H texted two of the kids and just said merry christmas to you too as they texted him and said merry christmas.....
that was it............
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, Yep, that's it! No more, no less! What do things look like for your home? Have you had your job interview yet? Has H's unemployment run out yet? If it has, I would file for child support on the 2 minor children. I know you are thinking, "he isn't working, what good would it do" I will tell you what good it will do, the Court will only consider the welfare of the kids, not that he does or doesn't have a job. The Court will force him to pay or go to jail, his choice. Its not fair to you to have to do all of this on your own. I think you will have to have help to keep your home and provide basic needs for your kids.
Not sure what is going to happen with the house as I need to re-file paperwork by the first of January.
H's unemployment does not run out until next summer.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well, if you want to keep your house, you will need to re-file the paperwork, if not, I guess you will be looking for a new address. Is your H still doing as he was with his Unemployment? Giving it to you guys? If so, no real need to file child support payments against him, as he is giving you what he has.
He gets none of the money as he has allowed me to control it. I pay the bills with it. I have done the house papers before but the bank wants updated info. No biggie.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, Sounds like you have things lined up with your house, you just need to find work..... I know that's tough right now, but hopefully something will fall in line for you with that. Any prospects?
Prospects....maybe but not quite sure. I know I must complete about 25-30 applications per week.
I am baking on the side....
Even if the house goes into foreclosure, I still have some time to find something as I can have a lawyer friend of mine file BK if I have a job after it goes into foreclosure but before the auction.
I'll let him deal with it should the need arise.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Maybe this is a window of where H is at right now with his warped thought processes.
My daughter spoke to me tonight.
tonight, i am not sure why she was telling me this but it was the first i had heard of it.
remember when her principal and his son died and how devastated she was and H called her and said he would call her again the next day and he never did?
she told me tonight that she reached out to him and texted him and asked why he never called her when he said he would. he goes on to leave her a voice mail in which he was a little sarcastic and said to her something along the lines of i cannot fix your problems or what bothers you, life is what it is..and then practically blamed her for an attitude, said how difficult it is to talk to her, that he cannot change things. she said she did not call him back.
He has not called S19 at all since about the second week of December and nothing since. Only a Merry Christmas text because S19 sent him one.
D17--same thing as S19.
D16--she never received a Merry Christmas text at all from him.
OH well..................
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
