Move over... I 'm moving back......

[smith18]

My first Thanksgiving following the bomb was too emotional to spend as parents together with the kids so the kids and I took Amtrak to Seattle and stayed a few days by the Space Needle. Last year, the kids and I went to Ocean Shores Washington for the beaches. And this year we are driving to Vancouver BC. I think I am starting to like the pattern of going someplace fun on Thanksgiving as a single parent.

[Kalni]

So, you assume there is someone else? I've been thinking your reconciliation sounded very similar to the one we tried last year. And since my judgement is affected by my experience I didnt want to insist since you said you've been snooping and lokking for clues and didnt find anything. I will be very surprised if there isnt an OW in your case as well.

Which of course doesnt make anything easier and if you confirm it it makes all the deceit and lies hurt like stubbing. Because we didnt FORCE them to come back and they did only to continue their stupid series of disrespecteful choices.

I dont know what to wish for you. In my case, the knowledge she existed helped me regain my trust to my little voice and self.
K

[Kalni]

I really don't see his reason for lying as everyone assumes it too. Who does he think he's kidding. At this point, it's like water off a ducks back. It's just immature and ridiculous... and to think he hangs his hat on he wasn't respected and look at all the respect he has been showing his family.... so sad for him.

Been there, done that... Sorry

[sandycay]

My first Thanksgiving following the bomb was too emotional to spend as parents together with the kids so the kids and I took Amtrak to Seattle and stayed a few days by the Space Needle. Last year, the kids and I went to Ocean Shores Washington for the beaches. And this year we are driving to Vancouver BC. I think I am starting to like the pattern of going someplace fun on Thanksgiving as a single parent.

S

Sweet, pick us up on your way thru here... LOL

[pearlharbr]

If you love a traditional turkey dinner then I say go ahead and have one! I've made it for just myself or the two of us a handful of years and enjoyed eating leftovers for the next ten days. Or you can go out to dinner if you don't want the leftovers.

I love KerryK's Thanksgiving travel plans. Growing up my family often traveled over Thanksgiving and/or Christmas so they don't mind if I choose to the same now. Vancouver is one of my favorite cities, used to go a couple times a year when I lived in Seattle. Foreign travel that's only a few hours' drive is fantastic!

[sandycay]

So, you assume there is someone else? I've been thinking your reconciliation sounded very similar to the one we tried last year. And since my judgement is affected by my experience I didnt want to insist since you said you've been snooping and lokking for clues and didnt find anything. I will be very surprised if there isnt an OW in your case as well.

Which of course doesnt make anything easier and if you confirm it it makes all the deceit and lies hurt like stubbing. Because we didnt FORCE them to come back and they did only to continue their stupid series of disrespecteful choices.

I dont know what to wish for you. In my case, the knowledge she existed helped me regain my trust to my little voice and self.
K

Hi K,

Yes, I assume there is someone else but if there is or is not it doesn't matter anymore. I am ready to live again and stop giving all my postive energy to a black hole as I have done. Reconcillation was good for aobut 6 months and then it had it';s spurts since last year.... ie. trips and jewelery and sweet nothings.... but it was all him trying to find his way back and he just couldnt' . I mean he tried after all.... calling OW on secret phone last year, struggling with his new Not in love with me feelings.... did he communicate those to me which he touted as so crucial in a relationship.....No! Did he seek counseling ... read a book... NO!

I have grown so much in the last few years going thru this. To bad he is still stuck in his own private hell....

When I said yesterday to him..."I know your lying... you know your lying" His first response was "there's no one else... IDK why you think that"

Now notice, I never mentioned what I know.... he just said that first .... so hyou tell me... didn't hear from him all weekend.... "he was just sitting in his hotel room" Yeah, right!

Whatever.

[sandycay]

Pearl,

I have always been traditional for holidays. My son wants tradition and my daughter doesn't really care. My S said dad's hasnt' really been into the holidays lately anyway so let's just make it here.... I know he doesn't realize that after the hoopla when all is done ... it may be a little more lonely.

I offered to take the kids on a mini cruise for Christmas but S says no way... he wants to be home on Christmas and states he won't be dividing up his holiday to spend time with his Dad. I think he means just the day off. He doesn't want to spend Christmas eve with him either because we go to candle light service. I hope by then we can work it out..... I don't want the H to be left out... but honestly it's probably not important to him.

[sandycay]

Going to see my attorney today. Feeling sick.

[smith18]

I hope your lawyer makes you feel as comfortable as mine did. Divorce is a painful experience. But it is not as painful as the emotional betrayal you have already been through.

How is the weather up where you are? I saw the forecast of Washington getting hit by a double storm with the stronger one happening this afternoon. I sure would not mind getting some 60 mph gusts to knock the rest of the leaves out of my trees (and out of my yard).

You gotta laugh at the weather forecasts for this time of year in the northwest - mine says rain for the next 7 days!

[Virtually_Handsome]

Uhhh, mine says it's going to be 78 and sunny tomorrow.

Oh, wait! I'm not in the northwest!