My W met with her L last week so I had my 1st mtg with my L this week. Good guy and first professional I've met that seems to "get" what I'm going through. He hopes I won't need his services but knows that it's likely I will based on what he's seen over the last 25 yrs of family law. He's very reasonably priced for a L and seems genuinely interested in making this process as least painful as he can. Because he's a Collaborative Lawyer, his main goal is settlement, not "winning", but he understands the quandry my W has placed me and our family in and will ensure she gets no more than she is entitled to under the law.
I suppose the only "good" news is that the D can be accomplished within 4-5 meetings if everyone cooperates. Which means the typical, long, nasty battles of a typical divorce can be avoided, thereby sparing our girls a good measure of pain.
I'm personally still against the divorce as I feel it is unfounded and our problems are not insurmountable. The pain and damage it will cause in the years to come, is not worth it. But my W is determined and won't rest until she has done it one way or the other.
My inclination is to get it over with and move on. When, and IF, she ever wakes up, she will see what she's lost and deeply regret it. But it will be too late for her. I don't go back to old girlfriends and I don't keep in touch with any of them.
Because she is my daughters' mother, I will obviously need to keep in touch with her but I feel, due to her current interest in "unusual" (to say the least) people and their "mystical" powers, that she will simply become that "eccentric" relative who means well, but everyone knows is not all there and who will be "tolerated" at family gatherings or special events.
Sad, really, as I used to be so proud of her and the fact she was the mother of my daughters. Now I'm actually embarassed by her and try not to look at our friends when she launches into her spiel about their energy fields and how she can tell them exactly what's wrong with them but will help "heal" them if they'd like her to. "God IS working through her", after all.
Sorry if I'm venting a little here but I'm getting to the point of just moving on and cutting her loose. I hate it but can't stop it anyway, she's bound and determined to divorce regardless of the cost, emotionally or financially.
Oh well, time to GAL some more.....
Me 47 W 44 D16, D13 T 23yrs M 20yrs WAW/MLC + Male EA "BFF from H.S." = Misery
