I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling. You may think you hate your life right now, but give yourself some time to heal and find your footing. Right now, everything looks bleak and nasty, but as you begin to find your footing again, the bleakness will begin to lift.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly, I thought I was healed but apparently not.
Ex brought the ow to the bus stop today to pick up the kids. I lost it and had heated words with her. I hate that I let them get to me but I did. I will never get over what either of them did.
I don't go into their territory, I leave them alone. All I ask is that she doesn't show up in mine.
And she is a liar, she denied being the one that was in my house the night I caught her there (the bomb)
Do they have no shame. How dare she do this to you. They are just as messed up if not more.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I understand how you feel, it really hasn't been enough time, and for them to show up like that, unannounced, to pick up your boys is just proof of thier immaturity, lack of self respect, and empathy.
Fortunately, you will become numb to this also, some time down the road. You will also realize they both aren't worth your time nor emotional upheaval.
Of course she lied, they both lie, honey, and they will continue to do so too.... their lives are based on nothing but, lies. They can't stop now, there is no truth, so sense of trust, no honor,nothing real within thier relationship, and there won't ever be. Thier relationship will never be anything like yours.... it will never be as good, and they both will wander around wondering if the other is lying to each other too.... it's a mess.... be grateful you only have to deal with it once in a great while.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
What was her reaction? Although you don't want to give her any more power to upset you than she already has, I wouldn't beat myself up too much about it if I were you-- you're not DBing your H anymore, and you're definitely not DBing HER! F her if she didn't like it.
Ms. H, I'm so sorry to hear that she showed up at the bus stop. What were they thinking? Absolutely nothing. They both think that now that the divorce is over and done with, everyone should be accepting the ow. Ain't happening for a very long time if ever.
You are healing...just give yourself time. BTW, no 2 X 4's here. I would have done the exact same thing, but probably worse.
"Hugs" to you and your little ones.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
