You don't need to have coherent thoughts... and I'm sure you are emotional after the past month of Retroville and all that brought, then to be dealt this blow.
do you have family or friends nearby that you can call? People that can just "be" with you tonight?
This is one of those times in life where you call people no matter what time of day or night it is and ask for help.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
Bridge, thanks again, no unfortunately the is no one to be with me tonight. Friends and family I have called and all are very supportive. I think it's important for me to be alone right now...needed. Stuck, no specific arguement, just the same old yoyo two days of good followed by on or two of bad. She just got sick of the pattern. Told me last night "I need to see something new from you." Thanks for the prayers. Sorry I'm not more articulate tonight.
Well hang in there. She left the door open for you from her comment. It's up to you to step up to the plate. Get some help and post here when you need to vent any anger.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Yeah, I guess, I spoke to her sister who told me that my wife said to tell me that she was by no means leaving the marriage or giving up on us, she just knew that I wouldn't leave so she felt that she had to do it for both of us and for the kids, she felt the argueing in front of the kids was toxic for all of us...she was right.
The light of a new day. Slept 4 hrs last night I consider that very good, actually feeling refreshed. Wrote wife an email last night saying that I am not mad and do support and respect her decision. Then I went on to say that I would move out of the house so that she and the kids could move back in and at least have some sense of normalcy in their lives, I also said that I would agree to any conditions that she puts on moving back in. I just want my kids as comfortable as possible She asked me two days ago to move out and I said I would not do that, later that same day I went into town to speak to our priest about the state of things and told him that my wife wanted me to leave the house, he advised me not to do that saying that a husband and wife stick it out and should work through it. When I came home my wife wanted to know what we spoke about, when I mentioned the part about him advising me to stay put wife became very quiet. I'm sure this was the point where she decided. I also told her that I would continue to deposit money into her acct as per usual and that my concern was for her and the kids comfort. Does anyone have any other advice on a next move? My plan is to stay put and wait for her to contact me and go from there.
I have to agree with Bill. Why can't the kids have normalcy living in the house with you?
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
They can, but the way we are argueing is toxic for the kids so I guess we need to be apart until we can learn to consistently get along. I just spoke to my sister in law and she told me that my wife said she would never come back to that house. I knew she was unhappy there I just had no idea of the severity. We live on an acreage outside of town and my wife has always felt very isolated.
