Sounds good. Today she is talking a little more to me. I notice that if she starts a conversation, we'll talk. If I start one, I'll get a nod or an "uh-huh" and that's it. I ran into an old friend of mine today. She is going through M problems also. As she was describing her problems, a lot of what her complaints were sounded very much like what my W has said. She described her husband and it sounded like she was describing me. The difference though is that she still wants her M to work and is in MC with him. When my W told me she was dissatisfied, I woke up and began to change. Her H hasn't. She is still in it. My W seems like she is out. It was an interesting conversation. Hearing my friend describe her frustrations and pain from her husband made me really think about how I have hurt my W.
2 more days until Retrouvaille.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
A month ago, your wife agreed to go to Retrouvaille and work on the marriage with an open mind and a willing heart. She said she would not change her mind. She told you the truth. She has not changed her mind. You have worried and sweated the entire month. It is good. When you walk in the door of Retrouvaille, leave all your worries behind. Just think about what the team leaders are telling you. Focus on the questions and answer them with as much description as you can. You are both going in there willingly. This will work out fine.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Much like Sara, I think you're going to have a good weekend there. It takes a lot for your wife to go in there with you, work on that and take it forward.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
I have calmed down a lot on the negativity. We have had conversations regardless of who started them. She hasn't left. She hasn't called a lawyer. She is going to Retrouvaille. I have a lot to be positive about. I am a selfish person, it has manifested itself in my marriage and is probably one of the contributing factors of our problems. I have made a lot of progress with it as it pertains to my R, but it still appears. I want my marriage to be fixed, and I want it now. When I don't get my way, I dwell on the negative and sulk. I am concentrating on the positive things now, and will bring that forward as deep said.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
