Left and leaving

[Sara]

lg,

She may be ramping it up in anticipation of Retrouvaille. The pressure of this unknown weekend may be making her lash out at you. Perhaps you can just agree to disagree for 2 weeks and if necessary come back to these arguments when Retrouvaille is over. You need to just have a detente for a while.

I am going to start preparing for the Retrouvaille weekend here in Tampa today. I will xerox a lot of materials to stuff folders and buy notebooks and pens for everyone. Our weekend is in 2 weeks too.

[lg193]

Sara, what role do you play in this program?

[lg193]

So she's now home and we have been arguing for 2 hrs straight, mostly instigated by me. I seem to be trying to sabotage this whole thing even before it gets here.

The complete indifference is the hardest thing to overcome.
Retro or not I think this might be close to the end.

[lg193]

Well, this is it, 2 more days till Retrouvaille. I am cautiously optimistic going into this thing, I spoke to a woman two nights ago who is one of the presenting couples at Retro and was very inspired by the things she had to say. She told me a couple of stories of couples who were separated or divorced for up to four years and after attending the Retro program remarried and are still going strong.

I explained to her that my wife had some apprehension about going to it because she feels that our problems are unique in that I have been verbally abusive in the past by complaining too much about the day to day running of the house and or child rearing arguements and even going so far as to block her exit in a recent fight because she refused to listen to me and just wanted to shut me out.

I realize all of these things constitute abuse/ bullying and intimidation and believe me when I say that I am not proud of myself. I really need to get a grip on my anger when she will not listen and learn to walk away.

Well after I explained all of these behaviors to this woman from Retro she just kind of laughed and said "you just get your Wife here because she ain't heard nothing yet" She said that the way the program intermingles their own personal stories of hell, mixed with their unique style of communication techniques she feels that my wife will be transformed.

She was quick to add that there are no promises made by the program but it will be an experience like no other.

So two days and off we will go, I beg anyone who reads this to pray for my family.

Thank you all.

[Orich]

Our retro is next month. I, too, am cautiously optimistic. I will certainly pray for you and your wife. Please pray for us!

[lg193]

Orich, I will and am praying for you and your family,thank you for yours. There is, I believe, great power through prayer. Good luck!

[lg193]

Hello all, just a short note, just back from Retro weekend. All in all I would say a very good weekend and program. Wife and I had two argument's that got a little carried away but nothing too serious. Learned some good comm and dialogue skills and will start putting them to use tonight after work.

Before I give a full report I want us to finish the post weekend sessions because I am quite sure thing will be different at that time.

One thing is for sure though, the program works, I have seen it with my own eyes Watching other couples there with serious comm problems and after having it explained to them in the right way you can literally see the light go on in their head...truly inspirational.






Me 42, Her 34
M 3yrs, T 8yrs
D 5 S 3 S 2
ILYBINILWY 02/09
Sleeping in same bed/with intimacy
"I,m done" her words: 05/28/09
She's trying again 06/25/09
Second "I'm done" 07/11/09
She's trying again.

[lg193]

Is anyone out there? In a low spot right now. Came home from work today to find Wife and my kids gone. I am a very sad man right now.

[Bridgestone]

Hi LG...
As a WAW I may be the last person you want to hear from but I also have been where you are wondering if there's anyone out there that cares.

There is... hang in there.

As someone once told me: it will be ok in the end, if it's not ok... know it's not the end.

If you're a religious person... Remember…

The will of God will never take you;
Where the Grace of God cannot keep you,;
Where the arms of God cannot support you;
Where the riches of God cannot supply your needs,
Where the power of God cannot endow you.

The will of God will never take you;
Where the spirit of God cannot work through you,;
Where the wisdom of God cannot teach you;
Where the army of God cannot protect you;
Where the hands of God cannot mold you.

;The will of God will never take you;
Where the love of God cannot enfold you;
Where the mercy of God cannot sustain you;
Where the peace of God cannot calm your fears;
Where the authority of God cannot overrule for you.

The will of God will never take you;
Where the comfort of God cannot dry your tears;
Where the Word of God cannot feed you,&;
Where the miracles of God cannot be done for you,
Where the omnipresence of God cannot find you;
-Author Unknown


Peace
Bridge

[lg193]

Thanks Bridge emotion flooding me right now not sure if I'm capable of a coherent thought...Reeling.