Puppy - Help !

[ShockedOne]

Tells me how she "has" to work and the only job she can get is in retail, because she gave up her life, career, education for me.

Where have I heard that before? Oh yeah, got the same phrase from my W!

[Faith2010]

Neil-

She is taking no responsibility for the choices she made in her life and instead blaming you for everything she NOW sees as wrong. Don't give into the bait. You know what reality is. You are a good guy and she won't be able to see that until she comes out of her 'fog'.

I hope you took your S to the aquarium today.

[mac-ct]

An interesting aside:

FOG - something that obscures and confuses a situation or someone's thought processes

ORIGIN late Middle English : origin uncertain; perhaps related to Norwegian fogg.

Thank god we're not Norwegians! (Sorry to any Nors here!)

Mac

[lowneil]

Update:

Not much to report. Had a great time with S at the aquarium. W was sad she didn't get to go, but she took him to the museum on Sunday.

She's gone from 100% sure we are getting divorced to 98%...funny.

I know she is trying to make an appt to speak with another A. Not sure what was wrong with the first one.

Also, she said her IC is helping her to "find the strength" to "move on"...jeez.

But, no big R talks, no fights, just sort of status quo.

Read the 5 languages of love this weekend. Realized I didn't know my W's love language.

[Orich]

My W says her IC is also helping her to move on, yet every once in a while I get a sign from her that she doesn't want to move on. It is frustrating!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

She's gone from 100% sure we are getting divorced to 98%...funny.

I know she is trying to make an appt to speak with another A. Not sure what was wrong with the first one.

It's likely that the first one, in pointing out the legal and financial realities to her, didn't go over real well with her.

SCRIPT.

Puppy

[lowneil]

DB Question:

My wife tells me she is not mad anymore she just wishes she could turn back the clock....

....I guess she means before all the problems started...any thoughts from the wise men and women out there?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

DB Question:

My wife tells me she is not mad anymore she just wishes she could turn back the clock....

....I guess she means before all the problems started...any thoughts from the wise men and women out there?

A: "I understand -- we all often wish we could do that, but we have to deal with what we have in front of us. How can I help with that?"

(hat-tip to Coach for that one ...)

Puppy

[Steve McQueen]

love the 2%. dont you just want to ask her what that means?

[lowneil]

Puppy-

Great advice. Thanks.