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MD you sound like me. It was great though my postman came knocking at my door and had a certified letter for me. He said look it has no name, you don't know who it's from, I would need to check your ID if you sign, do you really want to accept this? You can just say refused delivery. I said ok that sounds great. Go postman! Made that decision for me.


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any word yet on what sheriff wanted? im curious. did u mention it to your h? i am like u, i hid everything for so long that the sheriff showing up makes things too real. i still feel that way sometimes. like im still not admitting im moving, as if admitting it makes it real..im getting better at it though.

fill us in right away when u find out...


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Well, you can be sure it is nothing good. Anything to do with a sheriff or certified mail never is.

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Do not accept anything. You do not know if you are being served or your h is. I find it very unusual to have a certified letter come to your home and no name on it. Watch yourself. I don't like the sound of any of this.


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do u know yet? im so wanting to know what its about! dont let the certified letter scare u, sometimes those are nothing important...


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Ok gearing up courage today to call. For some that may sound strange, but this is really hard for me. I'm scared to find out what I don't know if that makes sense.

I mainly want to call him so he doesn't show up on my doorstep again or at my job, if they do that. How emabarrassing this whole thing is.

I did let h know, he said call him and he wanted me to do it right away. H said it's probably something about neighbors. I am not so sure about that. I really hope it's not more info about my h. I can't take anymore.

Yes Snodderly the certified letter had no return address or name. Had no idea who it might be from, so I went with my postman's suggestion and refused delivery.

This is all so strange and not how I live my life. At least, not until this whole MLC with h.

H is up to his usual hibernation techniques. He texted said he couldn't make it yesterday. I had to scramble to find childcare on top of a busy work day.

I find myself paranoid now when the doorbell rings or a car pulls up to the house. What a way to live your life. It so funny I feel like I need someone to hold my hand when I call the sheriff today. Stomach is in knotts. I know I am an adult, but not so sure how I got this way of feeling fear of the unknown. I just feel like so many things to process all at once.


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i know how u feel. i so know how u feel! i had to pick up a certified letter today, couldnt figure out who it was from....but i went, and guess what, it was only a copy of my acceptance to the apt complex.

so sometimes it isnt so bad, isnt what we imagine.

good luck, ive been thinking of u...post as soon as u know what it is.


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Ok so I called again. My hands and body were shaking. I know sounds crazy, but I am not sure if I can bare to hear anymore news regarding my h, if that is even what this is all about.

Just got his v-mail. Question, should I leave a message and my phone number? I am just so scared. Not at all sure how to handle this. Of course, my mind is racing and thoughts all over the place as to what this is all about.

H has assured me that he has NOT filed for D. I don't know what to think, but trying desperately to calm my nerves.


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Yes! Pleasee leave a message so he will call you back. Or maybe you can find someone in his office that can help you. Finding out what it is will be soooo much better than this. I feel you on the nervousness.. I'm the same way. I have learned though that it's better just plow into it head on. Like ripping off the bandaid.


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the sheriff wouldnt bring divorce papers, a process server would. could it be an order of protection against him? call and leave a message. honestly, if it were urgent, he would have been back.


me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
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