Just wanted to update. H is still in the band - three of them now. He sold the race car and the trailer for the race car and bought a "hot rod" (used Mustang) that he uses when he's not "working" on it.
For a while he came home more in the evenings and we spent more time watching tv together. Popcorn was the thing that we shared for many nights.
We don't date. We don't even ride in the same car together anywhere. (He will take me to the airport when I go out of town to see my daughter and her family.) He will help me if I need help around the house. He still does the grocery shopping for me and will pick up my medicine if I ask him to.
He lets me know when he has a doctor's appointment. Keeps me informed of any medical issues or changes. BUT he still stays at a distance from me. He tells me when he's going out with the "boys" but doesn't always tell me who is going out with. He is spending less time with his son and more time with friends from the past.
We have moved away from just e-mails and do more talking.
I still don't know how the OW fits into his life. I assume that he spends time with her but I don't know for sure.
Even though he is living with me I still miss him. I have been well enough this year to spend time working in my yard...the way that I want to. I'm getting more things done in my house. Trying to figure out what I want in life...spiritually, health (eating and exercising), work, etc. The answers are coming quickly and that's okay.
The healing from this has taken time and I finally feel that I am moving forward. I'm not in a hurry.
