I also had a choice to either go to Graceland or Nashville. I'm leaning towards Nashville. I would have given anything to go to Graceland years ago, but not to excited about it anymore.
"Power is sexy"....yes, I think that is how I saw my OM. I compared him to my H and I saw OM as "powerful" in some crazy way. I can look back at it all and see just how "sick" in the head I was!
Instead of allowing your mind to wander off into "What is Husband Doing" land while you are on your trip......focus on you and the short amount of time you will have with your D. Make it count! Make wonderful memories while you are there and don't allow thoughts of H & OW spoil your time with D. He is worth it and OW certainly isn't. Does your D know about the stitch? I hope you won't ruin your time by discussing all the problems. I know it would be hard "not" to discuss it, but on the other hand, it could sure pull your spirits down.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I wanted to stop by and see how you were doing. I have not had any time for this past week or so.....
I hope you have a great....no......an exciting trip. I would agree with Sandi .... though its hard to do.......it is really nice to NOT deal with the thoughts of H at all. If you can, try to minimize how much you talk about it. What I did, was journal on this site, whenever I would feel the need to talk about the R. Then you have some people who you can speak to that have a very minor role in your current life.
I don't know if that makes sense. I will be around all weekend if you need to vent and I will make sure to reply.
Just checking in with everyone who has been keeping up with me and my crazy life! lol
As you may remember, I am here in Georgia on vacation visiting my D. I just got back from Hilton Head SC, and had an awesome time. It has been incredible for my PMA. Also, it has been so peaceful since I'm not at home living in the nightmare with the MLC H.
H texted me twice on the way out of town. The first one was ten minutes after he left for work. He told me to have a good trip. Since I went dim, I didn't tell him where I went. I did text him back, and told him Thank You. Then about two hours later, he texts me again and says not to worry about the dogs. I thought about texting back, and saying I wasn't worried that they were in good hands, but I chose not to reply. Since I've been here, I have had NC. XH has called however, asking if I was having a good time with our D. lol
Good for you MJ!NC is much easier when you aren't together in the same house...I try as hard as I can even though mine is still living there....I only text him briefly if it is important (the boys) otherwise that is it.
Sad I thought I had a great marriage, life etc...Then he decides to pull the rug out...Makes me wonder who the hell he thinks he is? But such is life...Remember - Pray....Stand for your marriage by kneeling to pray
(((HUGS)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
What I am finding since I am hundreds of miles away from H, is major animosity setting in. I don't feel this as much when I am at home and see him everyday.
I'm also having the "Who the h_ _ _ does he think he is" feelings. He is so arrogant right now. I am getting the feeling like why should I even want him after what he's done to our marriage. I deserve better! I don't feel much like standing for the marriage right now. And that's what I've been doing for the last year.
Those are my feelings for today anyway! lol
I'm about to put that rug that he's pulled out from under me, right back where it belongs. Maybe I'll roll him up in it!!
HA! That was a great picture to imagine in my head!
I do know what you mean though. I am so there with you right now. Especially, after my H's visit, the anger has really started to set in. Maybe the reality of it all finally set in. I don't know. But, I definately have days when I am really resenting that he has left me to just deal with everything while he just walks away so that HE can "feel better". AHH! NO insight what so ever about what he is doing to his own life as well as "our" lives.
Anyways, hope you have a productive and happy day! Thanks for checking on me and I hope that you have a FAB time away from it all!
