Idle musing on "doing what works"

[fisherman]

I was never a good DBer. I give better advice than I practice.

I am by no means perfect, but the above quote is no surprise to me at all. After going through this you can spot it in your advice and posts.

You talk the talk but never walked the walk.

Something to think about when your giving advice to other people that will greatly effect their lives if the choose to follow it.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I was never a good DBer. I give better advice than I practice. I don't even DB well now; my wife and I still do a lot of the same things we did before. But several things I do know: You have to be willing to let them go. You have to learn to be happy with yourself and not need a spouse to feel complete. You have to be able to accept that there are things beyond your control, such as what your spouse does.

I dunno, Phoenix ol' boy. That sounds like pretty damned good DBing to me.

Puppy

[Mach1]

Yea ......this thread is really helpful


Pffft !!!

Let's all pat ourselves on the back on the count of three....

[smith18]

my wife and I still do a lot of the same things we did before

Michelle even mentions in the Marriage Breakthrough Interactive Seminar on DVD that what couples argue about early on in a marriage is what they still have contention with later on after many many years.

I can say that not long after I filed for a D, my W was somewhat drawn back to me and was on the fence. And then right before the D was final she asked for another chance. Consequences and them finding that they cant have it both ways seems to work in my opinion.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yea ......this thread is really helpful


Pffft !!!

Let's all pat ourselves on the back on the count of three....

Yeah, you're right. MUCH less mature than summoning all your MLC buddies to a rumble with "the turds" on the Newcomers board.

Who have you helped today?

[Phoenixdeux]

You talk the talk but never walked the walk.

Something to think about when your giving advice to other people that will greatly effect their lives if the choose to follow it.

That was a little meanish. I'm remarried to my ex-wife...how's your marriage?

[aliveandkicking]

I was never a good DBer. I give better advice than I practice.

I am by no means perfect, but the above quote is no surprise to me at all. After going through this you can spot it in your advice and posts.

You talk the talk but never walked the walk.

Something to think about when your giving advice to other people that will greatly effect their lives if the choose to follow it.

What is this all about? I mean for those of us who aren't privy to your histories. Have you "walked the walk"? What was that? Did it work?

I just want to understand what the specific disagreement is (though I presume "standing" vs. "moving on")...

Please extrapolate so we can all understand.

Thanks.

[Mach1]

Hey Puppy,

Favor here ? Don't start.....

I was talking about the situation, not you....

Cause I'm not going to continue this with you.

There are people who come here to heal, and this isn't helping.

I've helped more than you think, just cause I'm not here patting rears doesn't make it your business, nor should it.

Now this can go on, or this can end right now.....

Your call......

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Hey Puppy,

Favor here ? Don't start.....

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Um, I didn't.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

There are people who come here to heal, and this isn't helping.

I've helped more than you think, just cause I'm not here patting rears doesn't make it your business, nor should it.

Mach,

Anyone can click on your name, and hit "View Posts" and do the same with me.

I'll let them form their own conclusions as to who's "helping."

Your friend the Turd,

Puppy Dog Tails