Smileys, Just practice some self care today and don't beat yourself up. Limit contact unless it's about the kids. I am serious about taking care of yourself today you have a lot to deal with this weekend and you need some energy. Remember in survival school they taught to conserve sweat not water. You can handle it. Strength and Honor Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Smiley - here's your 2x4...get your damn book out and start writing again NOW. Your mental health must get a break from her madness. I am misty reading your horrid story about your horrid evening and OMG, wow, its hell....why? From where? Who is she? I'm afraid for your safety and hers...please please get the movers over here early....
But anyway....nuff of that...get yer damn manuscript out NOW because its going to save your life by giving you something else to think about ... maybe you can divert your mind from your sadness enough to get through the next couple of weeks.
I'm sure you (and we all) saw some of this coming (drywall, huh?).
She is struggling with her decisions. She is struggling with her path. She is struggling with guilt. Sadly, she can't figure out how to make herself happy.
Wonder what will go on at her new house if this type of backlash happens in your family home, with kids present (but in bed), and you there with the possibility of intervening...?
It's her journey right now.
We're with ya, friend. DB'ing or not.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Write that book. Start now. Get her out of the house and out of your head. She is one of the snakes at this point.
Wish I could help more directly. I am so sorry you are going through this.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Do not rescue her from a bit of this. Rescue the kids. Rescue
I think maybe because a lot of LITTLE "rescues" happened along the way, maybe she bottled all this up inside until the end? Not that this weekend wouldn't have been hell anyway, but I do think a lot of that "steam" -- instead of being dissipated by some typical amounts of healthy fighting along the way, may have just all built up to a boil here at the end.
Or maybe she's just not a well woman. I mean, doesn't like Caddyshack??? C'mon . . .
