Oh, Yoyo! (((((Yoyo))))) Wish that could be real! I know you already know this, but honestly you have DBed like a pro. Your H has had SO MANY chances and blown them all. You are such a strong and wonderful person--he's such an IDIOT!!!! Speaking of, have you told him yet??? Karen
Thinking of you, Yoyo!!! Even though you are ready I know that filing is still emotionally draining! Keep in touch and let us support you the best we can! (((YOYO)))
Thanks for checking in with me. What sweethearts you all are!
Actually, I have been doing quite well. I've been very busy. As matter of fact my dad tried to check on me three nights in a row last week by calling the house phone and he couldn't get me because I was out with friends and family.
My oldest DD is now 21. What happens to those cute little babies! So now my girls are 18 and 21, hard to believe they are both grown now.
As far as how I'm feeling, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off me. I finally dropped the rope after way too long. No more walking on egg shells. I can do whatever I want to. I no longer worry about what H will think. I know I gave my reconciliation attempt my all, I have no regrets other than it took me so long to let him "go".
I do have to share a funny exchange between my DD18 and myself today. She was off work today and had money burning a hole in her pocket, so of course we went shopping. On the way home one of my friends called and said she had run into my H and the OW at a restaurant today and it made her physically ill. DD asked me what the call was about and I saw no reason to lie to her. She knows her dad has a "girlfriend". DD said," I bet when people see Dad and her out they are thinking why in the world would he want to be with someone who looks as bad as her? At least Mom when you start dating someone new, it won't be one of your employees and he'll have his own job!" LOL, gotta love her, she is definitely a little firecracker.
Another funny note, I saw H's aunt Friday. She told me she asked her H what the OW looked like. He told her OW is so ugly, she could stop an eight day clock. The aunt said,"He only says that when someone is really ugly, so she must be really ugly."
I am enjoying my summer off. I think I'm about to head to bed. I have a long day of lounging by pool ahead of me tomorrow, life is pretty good.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Gotta love what your children come up with. They have a lot more intuition than we give them credit for sometimes. Glad you are filling your life with people that love you. Have a wonderful day.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Firecracker, yes indeed! You and your DD's are definitely that. A pack of black cats in a red paper wrapper!
You sound great -- and I know what you mean, to drop the rope can be such a relief! No more tiptoeing around the eggshells.
(Now if I can get xW to slacken up on the other rope -- the one attached to our kids. Thankfully your DD's are old enough to avoid being so used by your spouse.)
I will say that there is always going to be that twinge of regret that your efforts to preserve your M did not have the results you wanted. That's only natural. But then you were only really obligated for 50 percent of that effort anyway -- and you gave more than 110 percent of your half. The other half that your H was responsible for was left undone -- and without both parts it was never going to work.
So yes, you can walk tall in knowing you at least did your part.
I just booked a Florida beach trip with three of my girlfriends in July. Woohooo! How's that for GALing?!!! Maybe it will be one of those "How Yoyo Got Her Groove Back" trips, LOL.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
