It has been 3 years since I have seen the Ex. Tomorrow is granson's birthday party and in the past I've always had to work or I just wasn't ready to go and see the Ex. Tomorrow I will be ready.... I'm strong and I am totally indifferent to him now. He will be bringing the girlfriend that he has been with since a month after he left. She will be the one that is uncomfortable around the family and friends not me. I've grown into being a strong, assertive , person that he does not bother me at all and neither does she. It's been a long hard road at times and I never knew that my life could be so fulfilling without him. I am so blessed in my life now. I've grown and changed so much that he may not even recognize the person I have become. that is what brings me joy and happiness now...my independence and confidence...that is what drives me now and thinking about all that happened I am amazed who I have become and what all I have now without him and how downright happy I really am... ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
Good luck tomorrow, Itsy! Don't be surprised tomorrow if you have a little bit of a slip up. Even though you think you are strong and ready, once you see them for the first time, the way they look usually rocks you for just a bit.
I do hope that everything goes well. Remember, we have the Oscar sitting here waiting for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Dear Snodderly...I am expecting to be rocked alittle but I've been with a great counselor that showed me so much about myself and about the marriage that I am so far removed from it all now. I expect alitlle tremor and that is all. I've grown so much more in the last few months that I really am looking forward to it to get ia ALL behind me. Thanks for reply, I always appreciate your responses. How are you ? Any news with your alien? I think that ex is all done but listening to children I don't think so...He's her problem now... ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
Take it one step at a time and just remember...it's only for a short period of time and you can walk away from it. Enjoy spending the time w/your family. Yep...he's definitely her problem now.
Take care and I look forward to seeing a posting later on how it went.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I take steps no longer baby steps tho...I'm ready to fly... Will post after the event.. ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
well the party was great about a gadzillion kids and various relatives.. He walked up the drive and I saw him and GF ...so I walked out back where the party was and he came up to me and said hello and gave me a kiss and a hug....before I could react. Meet GF and she said nice to meet you and I said the same. GF looks really OLD and she is younger than me. Very puffy face and wrinkles....rode hard and put up wet....she looked hard. At dinner daughter said she likes wine.... It shows..My mother said that ex keep staring at me and every time I looked his way he was staring at me. We stood tohether once and was listening to someone talk.
I did very well. I did not get upset or have a little rocking or anything. It has all passed. I was dignified and having a great time with the children and people that I knew. Was very impressed with myself and Son and daughter ssid I was awesome. All in all a good time I can exhale finally.... I was not looking back at all and was great. i don't really miss anything about the [past at all. I really did great and felt wonderful. ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Itsy, I'm very proud of you! I'm glad everything turned out well. See, the ow is not always as we imagined. Sounds to me like she loves her vino!
You have no place to go but up!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Lola Sorry to read about allyour troubles these days but it will pass... Itsy
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
