I was looking for you. I am sorry. You are doing all the right things. Dont be afraid you will push him away and act as you must for your kids and you. I will post more later, love M
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I needed time to regroup, but I am back. I know I am doing the right things. God is affirming that. I am not afraid of pushing him away. At this point, he is so far gone, nothing I do will phase him. I look forward to hearing more.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I don't have much to add from our talk the other night but I want you to know I am praying hard for your situation.
Lost is he Found he can be
Hearts broken Words spoken
Agape love Sent from above
Yours to keep no more weep
Love,
L
Sandy--
Thank you for taking the time to call the other night and for the beautiful words you wrote today. My prayers are with you, too, as your DH is deployed. Stand strong in the Lord. He will not leave you or forsake. Have faith in your DH, he-and you-will be fine.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
You left out the part where DH asked, "who Mike is?"
I say keep on keeping on sister...
a wise man from Memphis once told me that....
it will all work out the way it is supposed to be..and you should tell DH that..
I'll say a prayer for you and the kiddos..
LOL Mike! I did not forget, but wanted to save that for another post!
Yes, for those who are wondering, Mike sent me a text early last Monday morning. My cell was on the kitchen counter and DH saw it go off. The ensuing conversation went like this--
DH: Who is Mike?
SMW: A friend.
DH: Has he been around the kids?
SMW: No, he is just a friend.
He then walked out of the room. It was pretty priceless, considering the situation! LOL
I am standing firm. Have had some teary moments, but they are short lived. When the opportunity presents itself, I will tell DH those wise words from our Memphis friend.
I will keep up the prayers for your dad and Michelle's mom. Thanks for thinking of me during your own trials.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
OMG!!!!!!!!!! sis, I so wish i could be there right now. I am so sorry this is happening. please know i love you, and so know the pain you are feeling, esp for the kids. idk what it is with men lately and the way they handle thier kids. i want to smack him for you.
i love you we need to catch up
praying for you
BG--
I know you are there and I love you for it. I did not want to call and get you all riled up. Take care of you! I am counting on you and J coming to visit me someday in the not too distant future. As for these men, the fog is pretty thick around their brains. When it blows away, they will never believe all they did while in it.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
In general I'm trying very hard not to pass judgments on people -- failing from time to time, but recognizing that all we know is at best a partial view of what's really going on.
But here? Um... oh to hell with it. What a pr*ck!
Yes, I have heard that term used several times to refer to DH in the past week from some RL friends.
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And live in his car? What, they don't have enlisted quarters in the Navy? Let him go back to the fleet if he can't give his family the attention they deserve.
DH was living on the ship prior to deployment, but it is going in the yards in a couple months. He will not be able to live on it then, anyway and cannot use the enlisted quarters that will be provided, as there is no separation and he has an address in VA. I can only imagine what the Captain would say if he knew what was going on.
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I read a lot of peoples' threads without commenting, but this one really chaps my back-side.
It is a special kind of ridiculous, isn't it? The sad thing is, DH was an amazing dad and I know it is still in him somewhere, it is just that darn fog blocking his ability to think clearly. Thanks for the support!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
SMW, Don't waste time trying to figure DH out. Keep transforming yourself and loving those kids. I can't imagine how you are feeling. You are on our prayer list. Coach
Don't worry, I am not going to make myself trying to understand something that cannot be understood. The transformation and love for my kids are givens. I am surprisingly calm, but will not be a doormat.
I know you and Greek are praying for me and I am so very thankful for it.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
SMW you can't reason with the unreasonable or try to understand the terminally confused (otherwise referred to as a f*cktard, or the leader of the one man dumbass parade...you choose).
I personally like the one I came up with last year when he was trying to explain to D9 why honesty is so important. I called him the Dean of the Do As I Say, Not As I Do Academy for Moral Incompetents.
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Whether his bed is comfortable or not, it is the one he has chosen for now, so let him lie in it.
I won't even give him a blanket.
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You are a wonderful woman and a great mom. He will have to live with the consequences of his choices.
Thank you! I am praying that DH comes to his senses before the consequences are irreversible. D17 may never forgive him for this stunt.
[/quote]I'm so sorry that he is acting this way and I can only imagine how you feel, but I'm prayin' for you too.
((((Hugs)))) S&S [/quote] I never turn down added prayers, so thank you for thinking enough of me to keep praying. I am sorry he is acting this way--sorry for the kids, but mostly sorry for him and all he will lose.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Only one thing to know here ~~~ you are a strong, marvelous woman. And if I recall correctly, you began here as a sad military wife.
What a testimony!
You are always in my prayer and mostly in thanksgiving for the good work you allow Him to do.
Don't forget in the darkness what you learn in the light
Cheers ~
Greek--
Ever since you told me that on the phone, I have held onto it like a talisman. I also locked it in my cel phone so that i never lose it. Thank you again, my friend, for being here for me.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Words fail me, sweetie. There are no words really for me to express the admiration I have for you!
I hope I don't offend in saying this.....it's no secret that I myself am not a religeous person, but I had a thought that maybe God is using you to teach all of us who have had the priviledge of watching you take this journey what real grace and dignity looks like!! Now, if I were you that thought would piss me off!! But, of course, you are not me.......you actually have grace, dignity, patience, unconditional love, strength and endurance more than anyone I've ever seen!
You deserve all the joy life has to offer, SMW! I have no doubt at all that one day you will have exactly that!!!
((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))
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TJ
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I am praying that DH comes to his senses before the consequences are irreversible. D17 may never forgive him for this stunt. 
But, of course, you are not me.......you actually have grace, dignity, patience, unconditional love, strength and endurance more than anyone I've ever seen!