You already know how I feel about all of this. I am praying for you and your kids. I'm also praying that your DH (my DH stands for something a little different than yours!) wakes up from this self-induced fog that he's put himself in before it is too late to salvage any kind of decent relationship with your children and you.
Just catching up on you... I was really hoping things would be different after he came back, but this is exceeding the worst expectations!
As you're trying to deal with this, don't try to rationalize the irrational... You can see from the posts above that it's not just you that can't figure it out. He's being completely irrational. Don't spend too much time trying...
Keep doing what you were doing while he was gone. He needs to see the consistency of your changes and the life you've built for you and the kids while he was gone.
SMW, I have nothing to add that hasn't already been written above, except that your strength and dignity is inspiring, and I am in the prayer circle for you and DH.
I had to sign in here just to say that I hope it is the most uncomfortable, flea-bitten, bed-bug biting, bed he has ever felt.
Oh, and I hope he has room to share that awful bed with my DH, Bill.
And man, I have been reading and not posting for so long I had to look up my username and password!
Originally Posted By: StrgMarvelousWmn
DH has made his bed--I hope it is not too uncomfortable to lie in.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
You are one of God's blessings in my life and I can only hope to live it with the Grace and Dignity you model for me.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
The outpouring of support is wonderful and I love all of you for it. I was not going to post about the awfulness of it all, as I really could not wrap my mind around it and I was not sure I wanted everyone else to know how much of a jerk DH is being. But, I knew I needed ya'lls support.
I will address individuals later.
You guys will love the "who's Mike" story. It falls under a "good for the goose good for the gander" scenario. Mike and I had a good laugh over it.
Thank you again. I also need to thank Mike again, for being at the end of the phone as well as S4H and Faithful H for their support via email.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
So, having gotten used to just going and doing what I want when I want and not having to answer to someone else's schedule, the kids and I have something going on all the time from now until the end of the month. The only nights that do not have prior commitments are Mondays and Tuesdays. The weekends are pretty full--wedding shower and birthday party this weekend, beach kite flying and Mother's Day next weekend, niece's wedding the following weekend, and then Memorial Day after that. How do I explain to DH that out lives are too busy for him now?
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
hhmmm that's an easy one. You say here take the kids on so and so night and bring them back at so and so time. You don't need to explain. Just state the facts in a business like fashion then smile and wave... leave him wondering. Make sure you get out without those kids and he doens't need to know what you are doing (even if you go spend 2 hours in a book store followed by 1 hour at the library) I even only told my kids that I was going out with friends. Sometimes I was and sometimes I wasn't. At least once a week do this and make it a weekend night for good measure.
Give that man something to wonder about will ya?
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
SMW... Let me be the first to say... (I know you'd never say it yourself!)
THAT MOTHER F(*&(*&()*&!!!!
Not too very long ago, I would have used similar language. Do not give me more credit than I deserve.
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You are a role model of strength and honor.
Thank you. I am simply trying to do the right thing, according to God's plan.
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I am truly sorry for what is happening right now. I know God has a plan. This one is a LOT hard to follow.
I'm with you in prayer. (Ticked! But, doing it with the right heart still!)
I am sad for my kids. I keep praying for God to ease their pain and comfort them when I cannot. God's plan is unknown, but His glory will be proclaimed in the end. It is hard to follow, but sometimes I think God likes it that way. Thank you for the continued prayers.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
