I was wondering why no one responded! I got locked! Anyway here's the last post.
I guess I should update. DD moved in with H on Sept 1. I have seen her a couple of times but she says she is busy so unless I just set down an specific event she doesn't see me.
H tried to set up a couple of mediation sessions. I told him I didn't want our marriage to end and he responded that it is hopelessly broken and he is responsible. The last mediation session he set up was for the next day. I told him that I would only go to a court approved mediator (which that one wasn't) and that I wanted my lawyer. H said he was ok with a court approved mediator but not a lawyer. I didn't respond and I haven't heard from him since Oct. 8th. The OW seems to be pushing him since she emailed me seeing if he really was divorcing me. H did make plane reservations to see his parents over Christmas BUT he still hasn't talked to them. His dad's bday even came and he didn't even call. I think this is just another OW push.
DD loves OW <gag> and OW says she is her daughter that she had when she was 11 but DD turned out white (OW is hispanic - 28 years old with 3 little kids from 2 years to 8 years, H is 49). So I am alone, which isn't too bad but I am unsure where to go to from here.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
I really think they are persuaded/pushed/manipulated into thinking that is what they should do by ow. Deep down, who knows if these men really want that because I think they would have done it sooner. And yet, they are just as miserable when and after they file, if they ever do.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Update: My dad died and I got served 2 days before the funeral. My DD also went to her school counselor about her anorexia/cutting, etc and voluntarily went into a treatment faculty. She is now in the day care part and living with H. We have to go to family therapy though. Yesterdays was a little eye opener. We had to validate something about our lives. H said he wanted to validate he wasn't a lousy person. I talked about wanting to know I am DD's mother - that I continually feel pushed out and how I always look at the worst like feeling the divorce will put me homeless. We were getting ready to leave though and I really felt I had to say something....I turned to H and said "I wouldn't have waited nearly 3 years, if I didn't think you were worth it". He stared straight ahead and didn't say anything.
I know people here say there are miracles and I really want to believe but I am having a hard time seeing anything but H finishing the divorce, marrying his 28 year old and her 3 little kids (2,5,8) and then taking DD and I never seeing her again. I can even see it worse...H getting the house and them all moving into it while i am living on the street. Yep, have to work on the negativity.....<sigh>
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
I am so sorry to hear the news about your dad. My heart goes out to you.
I am so sorry about you getting served too. No wonder you feel negative. That would get to anyone. I hope your D gets better. I know you are a strong person and you will bounce back from all of this heartache. Give yourself time to grieve.
Wow, so much has happened and nothing has happened since I last posted. H has done nothing on D since Jan. 6th. Next month his filing is up. Somehow I don't think OW will be happy when she finds out.
DD is still living with him but I think the bloom is off the rose. I have heard from 2 sources that she basically is raising herself now. She definitely is nicer towards me and seems to want to spend time with me.
I finally got on anti-D's and they really have helped. I am going to a gynocologist this week to see how my hormones are since things get so out of wack for me.
My dad's house is sold and I think I am pretty well settled with his stuff.
I got rid of my horse but that is ok. He needs someone who would work with him. Instead I now have 8 chickens. They are sooooo cute. So things are ok.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
Wow, so much has happened and nothing has happened since I last posted. H has done nothing on D since Jan. 6th. Next month his filing is up. Somehow I don't think OW will be happy when she finds out.
DD is still living with him but I think the bloom is off the rose. I have heard from 2 sources that she basically is raising herself now. She definitely is nicer towards me and seems to want to spend time with me.
I finally got on anti-D's and they really have helped. I am going to a gynocologist this week to see how my hormones are since things get so out of wack for me.
My dad's house is sold and I think I am pretty well settled with his stuff.
I got rid of my horse but that is ok. He needs someone who would work with him. Instead I now have 8 chickens. They are sooooo cute. So things are ok.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
Wow, so much has happened and nothing has happened since I last posted. H has done nothing on D since Jan. 6th. Next month his filing is up. Somehow I don't think OW will be happy when she finds out.
DD is still living with him but I think the bloom is off the rose. I have heard from 2 sources that she basically is raising herself now. She definitely is nicer towards me and seems to want to spend time with me.
I finally got on anti-D's and they really have helped. I am going to a gynocologist this week to see how my hormones are since things get so out of wack for me.
My dad's house is sold and I think I am pretty well settled with his stuff.
I got rid of my horse but that is ok. He needs someone who would work with him. Instead I now have 8 chickens. They are sooooo cute. So things are ok.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
Wow, so much has happened and nothing has happened since I last posted. H has done nothing on D since Jan. 6th. If he filed on Oct 28 and the filing is good for 180 days...that means tomorrow the filing is up! Somehow I don't think OW will be happy when she finds out.
DD is still living with him but I think the bloom is off the rose. I have heard from 2 sources that she basically is raising herself now. She definitely is nicer towards me and seems to want to spend time with me.
I finally got on anti-D's and they really have helped. I am going to a gynocologist this week to see how my hormones are since things get so out of wack for me.
My dad's house is sold and I think I am pretty well settled with his stuff.
I got rid of my horse but that is ok. He needs someone who would work with him. Instead I now have 8 chickens. They are sooooo cute. So things are ok.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
