Just limbo with the B. It seems as if I am destined to be in limbo one way another for a bit longer. Haven't I gone through enough yet? I am getting so worn out and down in the dumps over this stuff. Please let egghead out of my life
Sounds like you had an exciting day!!! How did we ever do without computers??? Ok, you are having the same feelings as me, but mine over the D. I asked the L today (she was with a client, so her secretary) that I want to file for mediation asap. Karen
I spoke with the B Lawyer yesterday and he thinks we will be okay without the QDRO signed by a judge. But we would be better off if it was. I haven't heard from my other L yet. I would have filed today except that I still have too much money in one account and I get paid tomorrow & Child support on Monday so I will have to wait until April now. Almost a full 2 month delay!!
The kids seemed to be breaking dishes left and right last night. I got upset and felt bad about it but they have to be more careful. Almost every dish that ex and I bought right before we got married is broken. Well that is nearly 20 years and with 4 kids I guess that isn't soo bad. Here's to having a better day.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hope you're having a better day today!! I had a bad one yesterday and realized I need to start getting more rest and food! I was so cranky I couldn't stand myself yesterday!!!
Well, at least the good thing re: the broken dishes is you need to spend all your money so maybe you can get lots of really nice replacement dishes???? Karen
Replacement dishes that are nice while they are still this age...umm, I don't think so. Have a killer headache and hitting my fluffy,comfy bed soon.
I am trying to get S16 interested in taking driver's ed. I would feel so much better having someone who teaches do that than ex. S16 says he hasn't really taught him anything but it does make them spend one on one time together.
Who knows what I will do. Monday will be 8 months that the D has been final. I still have to deal with his messes but I do hope after the B I can let go of some of this pent up anger that he forced me into this. I can't believe he has become such a selfish jerk...or was he always and I was so busy defending him that i never saw it?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Feeling a bit better this morning. Ex has sent a 3rd e-mail asking for more time. I didn't respind to the second because I was waiting to hear from the L if I needed to do this. Now, I have him nipping at my heals again. UGHHH
This is the weekend with just S16 and I. Really ready for the break. We have kind of agreed that it is do our own thing time and we don't step on each others toes much...if at all. Don't get me wrong, I adore all of my kids, just a sanity break.
I have the new sofa coming next weekend and I have a lot of cleaning to do to move the old one to the "office" area, since that is where we have been storing everything from the flood from nearly 2 years ago. Can you tell my life has been in a holding pattern since this whole mess started?
I feel like change. So time to make it happen.
kat
Oh and forgot to tell you that we are expecting 8-12" of snow!!
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Glad you're getting the break! I never had breaks before this and I've found they are WONDERFUL!!! I love my kids, too, but H wouldn't ever take them even for a few hours for 13 years so...I think the same stuff about my H. How the heck did I put up with him for so long. I do think he's always been a little selfish, always had lots of GAL time for himself, and put himself first before the kids and me. But I also think since OW and this MLC or whatever the last 2 years, he's gotten 100 times worse. I mean he tried to be a good, moral person before and that doesn't seem to happen much now, and he's gotten 10 times meaner and angry I think. I just pray for him every night. I hope for their sakes and our kids that they will kind of shape up a little!!! Karen
Change is good. Whether the bankruptcy has started or finished or whatever, start the new chapter of life. No need to wait for anything to be finished.
Dishwashers?? You guys are silly.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
How bout you? How's everything going on the B front? Karen
Karen