Nope, not getting him a thing as he does not get me anything.
He is coming over though.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
No, he never responds to any of my texts. He has not texted me nor called me unless it was of an urgent nature since the end of November.
I do know for a fact that for the last few years, he has been buying ow cards and gifts for V day and her birthday whereas I am lucky if I get a happy birthday.
He did not even say thank you to us for the birthday dinner and pies. I did not kill myself with cooking but still, anyone with a brain would thank someone for doing this.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, You are too kind, especially if you are under the weather. I would have given him a rain check for yesterday and advised him to come over when you are feeling better. The least the man could have done is say "M, thank you for the home cooked meal". Time to cut him off for the meals or at least the goodies.
Hope you are feeling better soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Sorry you haven't been feeling well when you are stressed your immune system does not function as effectively as it should. You may not even think you are stressed but 4 years of "this" is bound to affect you. Take care of you. Btw did he ask you for the $100 that you thought he would? or will his tax rebate cover that. That is pure ignorance not to thank you for his b,day meal. He would have been wearing his pie had he been so rude to me. Don't offer any food to him or invite him to your table. Tell him meals are for family only.
Well, it is rude that he did not thank us but it is sooo unchristian like for anyone to not offer food, etc. Would Christ turn people away--no.
He is family, you know.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, Hmmm....family? He may be a family member, but he's certainly got the best of both worlds right now. He's got the ho and his little cave to scurry to when he wants peace and quiet and when he wants a nice home cooked meal and entertainment, he's over at your place.
M, he may be family and it may not be a christian thing to do, but you need to draw a line in the sand and set some boundaries. God would not want you and your family treated in such a manner w/all of this struggling. I'm sorry, but it's time to do something different.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I hear ya Snodderly, but I am not sure there is anything LEFT to do. That was the first real homecooked meal since Christmas. The other times which have been very, very few consisted of sandwiches or something similar.
What am i to say--I will give you your income tax money if you break it off with ow and come home????
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sorry MWG that your h is not gracious. I don't know what to say, but maybe you do need to do something different.
Has he started to look for work or is that out of the question? I could call him MWG and give him a piece of my mind. Oh yea I forgot he is in MLC and it would do no good.
Have a good weekend regardless! You deserve it!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
He is not looking for a job which infuriates us. I have to say that at least I am doing all I can to make some money. I have a neighbor coming to look at the car. He works on cars and could use the money.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
