Hope band night is fun tonight. As K says, no getting happy at what you hear/having expectations/assuming anything. Just file the information and carry on as normal- sounds like you're doing fabulously.
Hey girls!.. I couldnt go to band night.. I got uninvited cos my ex was going with BMF! Which is a bit unfair, but...I already have a girls night out set for Saturday with Cher, so I didnt need to see her tonight as well...
She said she would try and find out some more information from him, with the caveat that she WONT let on that she talks to me about him! Not expecting to hear anything earth shattering/different, but then it would be lovely to hear they have split up hey! I doubt that though. She emails me every day, so if there was any news, she will be telling me in the morning...
Yeah.. I thought that too.. it wasnt a a firm invitation, just a come along, but then as he was also coming. I wish I had gone along, seen for myself and confronted it finally. Maybe I should have.
I woke up upset today, like Kalni, really upset. Havent felt this bad in a long while. Cher emailed to say there was no news, she didnt chat to him much, as she was with her friends.
I'm back to thinking, ok, you're making a go of it with someone else, despite the comments about doubts. I feel resigned again, back to feeling that I just want to see ypu and have the conversation we never had, say goodbye to our R, see if there is any chance of a friendship at some point.
Have a good time tonight. Just enjoy the evening and try not to let the info. on xBF dominate your time out.
Getting the information is good, but it is also maddening for you. I'm fearful for you b/c he seems to keep you in knots and twisting in the wind for him.
If you can't seem to get anything concrete, maybe you should try move forward w/out him and let things fall where they may. It would be excruciating, but at least you'd be able to free yourself from being tied emotionally to what xBF is or isn't doing.
This whole thing seems to be killing you, my dear. Hopefully there will be something to stop the madness for you and soon.
Do keep in mind that you can decide to not get on the roller coaster and instead just let it pass you by.
Have fun tonight, sweetie. If you can't get any pins down, at least get some pints down.
What RTL said! You are obsessing again! Go out. Have fun. Chat and talk and listen. If he comes up in the convo, great, if not, great! You take care of yourself, and I think the rest will follow!
Hey guys... well, I did have a good night (I won at bowling!) and Cher and fiance G are two amazing people.. they ahve been so kind and absolutely instrumental in this, if we get back together.
So Cher told G that I needed a chat.. and he said sweetly, Al, what do you want to ask me? Ask me anything! I said, are you sure? He said absolutely, shoot... so we talked for 1/2 an hour.
My head is spinning, but basically, my ex completely realises he has made a mistake, he realises its not right with her, that he doesnt have and never will have with her, what we had. He completely misses what we had and our homelife, which is interesting, as I always could never understand how he could leave, as we did have such a lovely cosy homelife..he said after many years with someone, it can get a bit boring at home sometimes, a bit stagnant, but you dont realise what you had until its gone and you miss it so much.
That he realised early on, the thing with her is just sex, but that he soon got bored of that.. and now.. G pulled a face like as though even that was a chore now. My ex did talk to him about what happened when they met and didnt get on and why not and G was honest with him about why they dont like her..(something to do with drink driving and ramping the car and acclerating and some other aggressive driving and the bolshiness) and when he gave the reasons, my ex agreed with him and said "yeah, fair enough".. and my ex said, he doesnt get on with her that well, as she often "annoys" him.
I was amazed.. why is he even still with her? G said the same.. I say to him, what are you playing at?? End it with her !!! Get back with Al, you're a fool...He said, he knows what he is doing, he is similiar.. just hoping the situation will sort itself out, being avoidant, doesnt want a confrontation, doesnt like a fuss...
All these things were said 2 weeks ago when G met had that serious chat. He said he definetly didnt want to move in with her, that he doesnt see her much..
