I'm gonna have fun...I'm gonna take care of my responsibilities..I'm gonna do the right thing
everything else will take care of itself..
I like your new attitude. Hadn't been around in a while (couldn't listen to more batchitt crazy, LOL, just in case I turned out to be) & it's really really nice to hear you having a good time. You deserve it. You look really happy in the pic too.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Geez Mikey I just wish you could get in a good mood or something...
Happy for ya buddy
I'm tryin to pull the rest of your heathens up and drag you along behind me..
It's time to get happy BBJ...tomorrow may suck for me. ya never know what life will throw at you...
Well you've dragged me good Mikey
To add to the rest of ya, positive, positive, positive. What you've gained and not what you've lost. Life is to short and it's for living, if yr ex didn't think you were good enough for them, so be it, but don't dwell on it.
Sounds like healing has been on the menu for a while and you are having healthy doses of it. Good for you! It's funny referring to the family birthday party and it hits home pretty close. MXW is having our son's birthday at my Parents house like we have in the past. I will be attending for my son's sake and will be bringing my GF. Needless to say my GF does not understand why I would attend.
I simply said at some point you will understand that we do things for the benefit of children even when it is not as comfortable as we would like for ourselves. My GF and I are both divorced she doesn't have any kids and both of us came from ugly divorces through our parents. There certainly is a mindset out there, that kids should only have the blessings of one parent at a time after a divorce.
Personally, I understand but believe that position to be as selfish as getting divorced in the first place. Two wrongs don't make it right. Provided there isn't any mental or physical cruelty involved. As for my folks my Mom and stepdad obiviously will be there. My Dad and Stepmom I doubt will show. I think I can bear it for a few hours so my son can have all his peps sharing in the celebration of his birthday!
God bless brother and glad to hear things are getting better!
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
Sounds like healing has been on the menu for a while and you are having healthy doses of it. Good for you! It's funny referring to the family birthday party and it hits home pretty close. MXW is having our son's birthday at my Parents house like we have in the past. I will be attending for my son's sake and will be bringing my GF. Needless to say my GF does not understand why I would attend.
I simply said at some point you will understand that we do things for the benefit of children even when it is not as comfortable as we would like for ourselves. My GF and I are both divorced she doesn't have any kids and both of us came from ugly divorces through our parents. There certainly is a mindset out there, that kids should only have the blessings of one parent at a time after a divorce.
Personally, I understand but believe that position to be as selfish as getting divorced in the first place. Two wrongs don't make it right. Provided there isn't any mental or physical cruelty involved. As for my folks my Mom and stepdad obiviously will be there. My Dad and Stepmom I doubt will show. I think I can bear it for a few hours so my son can have all his peps sharing in the celebration of his birthday!
God bless brother and glad to hear things are getting better!
Goodfight...ya know I miss you around here!!..Ping is back by the way and might value your input on his thread in Surviving.
yep..the B-day is a sticking point for me. I can't put myself in that position yet but hope to be able to sometime down the road..In due time I think..in due time..
I just can't stand the thoughts of being in the same room with XMIL and XFIL..
Yes turns out she had a boyfriend before I was moved out. She did try to hide it from me until about October and then I just called it out. No, she is not bringing him, I asked and stated I would be bringing my friend, she said she was fine with it but wasn't bringing her dude.
Funny thing is she leaves the room when he calls because I see my son daily so I have a lot of contact with the XW. I talk normally in front of her. I guess she is just use to sneeking and will take a while for her to get over it. I go through bits where I digress, but for the most part just put my son's feelings and always his needs first and more often than not any silly stuff just rolls right off.
I miss the folks her too, problem is reading this stuff is hard for me on a consistent basis. People hurting so much, I seem to handle the weight of my world on my shoulders just fine, but if I add someones elses, something tells me rather quickly it is too much to handle.
I would like to promise I will be around for a while but I am in the process of looking to purchase a home. So I will drop when I can and look for ping. Maybe I should use the other site more but I can't stand all the notifications all the time and haven't been on in weeks. Anyway take care brother I will drop by for as long as I can.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
