Hey K! Yes, I was snowed in! In Cornwall! Thats a bit mad, so TSD was cancelled and I didnt get to do a grab-a-groin on GLM (anyone new to my thread will think me crazy).
So.. he replied to my email! Lots more questions, very warm, hmm, interesting. I sent my reply yesterday to his Friday.. and he sent me one earlier where he pointed out "only just got in to the office, roads are chaos"... so that was nice hey. So we're in a new phase here, creeping back up to daily contact (too soon to tell) and he is making an effort to reply now (not leave it a week!).
Dont worry, my Mum is keeping me in check.. she said "it shows you have kept the lines of communication open and there seems to be a dhift in him, but taking it on face value, he appears comfortable to be chatting to you again about his football and your sailing"...So I'm trying not to get too pleased about these developments!
Good job Ali. Just keep it light and friendly and don't expect him to do or say anything. He works at a snails pace so what would probably take any other person 2-3 months will probably take him a year to work up to! Just keep having all the fun you are having.
Take care!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hey Dawn and thanks for the encouragement!..Sounds like a good idea, but then if I didnt meet the daily quota, I think I'd wind up feeling more of a failure! How about we just regularly kick each others *rse and keep motivating one another?! You did already, as I managed to go to college all day and do some work, woohoo! Started a new maquette for a sculpture.
Hi, Ali, good for you getting something done on your program! Now let's hear what you accomplished today, okay?
I'm going to be making some phone calls, and I have yoga class tonight (it's been canceled the last two weeks for weather!), so I won't have much of my evening available for work-related stuff, but I plan to scan in a few things, maybe 5 or so. I will report in tomorrow, and hope to hear from you likewise, eh?
Thanks for posting on my thread. Hope you are enjoying playing in the snow! Now I'm off to make my phone calls!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Hey girls! Well, I half finished my sculpture last night.. its a 4 foot high model made of paper so far, its a cone which runs through the centre of 7 boxes, or oblongs covered in lead pencil, looks like a complex geometry problem and I've called it "Saturn conjunct Venus" ! Noone will know what the hell it means.
Mish, you are right, he works as slow as a snail on sleeping tablets. Having said that though, I have a feeling of things 'coming to a head'...things were moving VEEERRRRYYY slow in January, I could feel things dragging, psychically, but now, they seem to be speeding up.. so we'll see !
And its that Pluto square Venus tommorow AND Saturn opposes Uranus right on my Sun AND its in teh window now of the eclipse Monday, in Leo.. so.. I'm still hoping this all triggers the demise of their R (and I dont mean that nastily to her, as I am sure she deserves better than a man who wears 'the full front' to her and thinks about his ex whenever he is with her). The way I see it, the R served a purpose for them both, they've learnt their lessons and now its time to move on.
If not.. and he decides to make a go of it with her? I'm outta here...
thank you for visiting my thread! I just wanted to let you know that I have been reading all along.
I'm sorry to hear that things are crazy at art school. (Weirdly, I was able to use school stuff to keep me from totally losing it with my situation... just really throwing myself into the work and staying really busy. somehow it fueled me.) I really want you to be able to finish your program! I know you can pull it together, ali! Don't give up on your dream!!!
Congratulations on the sculpture, it sounds exciting! love, T
I'm constantly amazed at how you are able to keep yourself busy through all of this. I don't seem to have the physical energy - or is that my cold I picked up in DC? Not sure, but I'm glad you are pushing forward w/your stuff and the sculpture sounds cool. Will there be FB pics for us to see?
As for BF, yes, his pace is painfully slow and he may be at this pace for a while. I'm glad to hear you've put a time table of sorts on your sitch and if he does try to work it out w/Helen, you'll vacate for good as you'll know it is too toxic to stay.
He may surprise you and come your way too, but regardless, any movement from him is what is needed. Hopefully, it will be good and positive for you in the R sense, but even if it isn't a "fresh start" will be very healthy for you.
It sounds like you're doing really well! I haven't been posting much lately, but I do keep track of what you're up to. So you think things are going to speed up in general over the next few days? It does feel as though there is some pretty intense energy out there at the moment...
I like the fact that things are improving with your ex, at least to the point of being friendly again and having more frequent contact. Maybe you're moving into the friend stage. Sounds like at the moment you are going to sit back and let things unfold?
Anyway, keep us posted. Crossing my fingers that things work out the way that you want them to.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Hey kids! Thanks for your support! I finished the model..pics may be on FB
Hi ITH.. good to see you back, your sitch is ticking along nicely! Thanks for your kind words. Perhaps we arent yet friends, but yes, the tone of his emails are SOOO much friendlier, astonishing after so much time!
Things are getting intense and speeding up now.. Venus is in Aries (crikey) squaring Pluto today (OMG!) and today, Uranus is opposite Saturn.. and we're in the shadow of the eclipse Monday (4 days either side)...
So had a bizarre day.. I was invited to bandnight tonight, by Cher and I was due to have a chat with her fiance, ex's BMF, becuase I just want to KNOW now what my ex actually said...then BMF invited ex as well, so she uninvited me, so BMF can talk to him.. then I got in a stress about them repeating things to him (and as others have said on this thread, it would be bad if they gossiped to my ex about the conversations I have with them) so I checked with her and she said...
"Oh god of course I don’t tell *ex* you were asking questions! AND I tell *fiance* that we (as in me and you) don’t really talk about *ex*, so dont worry, *fiance* cant even slip up!"
So, phew. He didnt reply to my chatty email, so, guess contact is still intermittant. So.. no change! Quelle surprise.
OK I just can't wait to hear what transpires at bandnight tonight. Looking forward to the gossip!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
