It's Complicated! Part 3

[glamgirl]

Not much to report. I am going to spend time this week getting the kids rooms ready. S20 and his friend moved out. It's lonely to say the least.

I just love my s20 so much and so proud of who he has become. He was concerned about leaving me alone and he said he was having a conversation with God. He said God assured him their was NO reason to worry about me, that God was taking care of me and the kids.

I said s20 you are right, me and the kids will be fine. You will be just a phone call away.

I admit though I am sad. He has grown into such a great young man.

H was here on Sunday. We had to get a new router, since s20 took the one he got for the house. I asked h if he could install it. I am not the techy type, but could probably read the directions.

H started to work on it and 2 hours later was frustrated and mumbled something about incompatability. He even got a bit angry when I asked what was not working. He finally said I don't have time or the patience for this right now.

I said no problem h, it's not that important now. When h left he did apologize for getting angry. Now my h has always been the tech guy and has a degree and masters in technology. Not so sure what was happening. He has taught s20 so much in this area.

After h left, I called s20 and said can I come get you to hook up the router and connect the computers and my xbox. He said sure. In about 20 min he had our computers connected, my work laptop and xbox. I was like amazed. He has always had a brain for the tech stuff, even at an early age.

I remember when he was like 7 years old connecting all the vcr's and gaming equipment together back then when it was just me and him living together, before I met h. It just comes easy for him.

I haven't told h yet that no problem it's all working. Yeah I am connected to the world.

[Truelove]

Hi glamgirl,
You sound good. Have a good week.

[brandnewday]

GG

When my S22 left for College, I was emotionally distraught.
I cried all the way home, for almost 2 hours.

My Son left for College the same year my Husband moved out of the house, so it was a double whammy.

A year later, my D21 also left for College...

BUT....He has become an amazing and wonderful Man, and I am so proud of him. He still visits and calls or texts me daily. He keeps in touch with his younger brothers and sisters which is the one thing I was worried about.

I guess it's all part of them growing up and us letting go!

[glamgirl]

Thanks BND. I am walking around the house with tears in my eyes. I am so lonely now. I know this too shall pass, but heck I miss not only my h, but now my son too.

I have to dust myself off and just get busy.

[TRUSTING]

I'm sorry glam.

[MidwesternGirl]

GG:

They grow up so fast but he sounds like if you ever need him, he will be there right away--that is good!! I am glad he got everything hooked up for you.

Did your H ever try out the new mattress?

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, [[[[[Glam]]]]].

I know it must be very hard to let your S20 go. You've said before what a big support he has been for you through your sitch.

You should be proud of yourself for letting him go with love and strength by telling him you will be just fine. That is a precious gift you have given him!

My C has told me that many times parents, whether consciously or un-consciously, play the guilt card and try to hang on to their kids, either for fear of being alone, or need for being needed. That is a disservice to young adults who deserve to have their own lives.

I have no doubt you will be more than fine! You'll be GREAT (as you always are!!!!)

Take care!

[glamgirl]

Trusting, MWG, and SC thank you so much for those kind words. I am just sad thinking how lonely I am now in a 4 bedroom house. Really, do I need this much space.

MWG h never checked out the new mattress. He is just so overwhelmed with his job to say the least, but then my h has always been a work aholic.

Never heard from him today. He said he could meet me for a quick dinner before he leaves for FL tomorrow evening.

I finally after 3 years of living in our home programmed the thermostat for when we sleep, awake and leave. I love it. I wish I had done this 3 years ago, instead of either freezing or boiling. Now that both h and s20 are gone, I must learn on my own.

I do ponder when and where this is all going to end.

[Upside]

Hi glam-
Just stopping by to say hi...it's been awhile.

I do ponder when and where this is all going to end.

Isn't that the $64,000 question. You seem to be doing well and taking things in stride.

That must be tough to have your S20 leave home. It sounds like he has been such a great help to you but it is time for him to live his own life. He sounds like such a great kid...well done!!! My S17 may be leaving for college in July...I will be sad but I think it will be good for him too.

Hopefully your H will help you throughly break-in your new mattress when he gets back from his trip.

(((HUGS)))

[Dawn of Hope]

Hi, Glam, no words of wisdom from me today, just stopped in to check on you. Hope you are feeling better today.

Peace,
Dawn