Perhaps he's working up to actually leaving, and is trying not to make it a shock. Almost, like he's putting you down "gently"? There is a definite trend.
Will you be okay on your own?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Maybe you're right, he's certainly spent a lot of time working up to it so it won't be so shocking! lol I've had a good idea of his other place for 2 years, why would he still be here? If he was leaving then why....phooeey, been thru that whole thought process and it's a waste of brain cells.
Will I be okay? yes. I will still have a ton of heartache but I have a good idea of the physical changes I would need to make to make things flow.
One more vent about the feed! I was waiting for a water tank to fill tonight, it's a time to look over the pen of livestock and reflect on things. I thought back to a year ago, and what horses were in which pens, who was eating all that grain every week. Mother Mare was still with us then, and took extra feed and care. H acknowledged that. But you know what? last year I was still recovering from surgery and couldn't even carry a 50lb bag of feed! Any feed that went up the hill to get fed was taken there by H. And he blames me.
Now if I was feeding cheese doodles I could have carried those bags!
Forging on...
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Why do we love these men-well, I think for many, our marriage vows is something we take seriously but as we go thru this we have our ups and downs, do we love them, why would I want him back, I really could care less what he does, I wish he would come home, and so on.................
I do think at times it is worse than our own kids teenage years.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Cowgirl, maybe you are at the lawyer's organizing your considered response to the Cheeto {cheese doodles?} problem, but I need you in "Hopefulness/Hopelessness". Things are getting weird. I am hostessing a schizzy thread with two petitioners. I am dispensing DB advice in a comically certain way and I feel so ALONE. Come back soon. Fix your marriage or move the couch out to the porch.. but consider coming back to "Hopelessness".
