Hey, we made it through Thanksgiving. Sometimes it is just moment to moment, but you come out on the other side. We can find life in the midst of all this.
Bettou, This was a great thread last night...helped me get through. Thanks much.
Beth, doing good. Mornings are always better. I read through a lot of the links on MLC last night. Made me feel better that I'm not doing anything wrong. Not much we can do but take care of ourselves...as strange as that feels. :-)
I like to read lots of threads here, too to learn and to seek inspiration. There is a thread in the "We're Separated, What Now?" thread by DieHard. It really inspires me. Here is the link:
I hope your day is better today. I still feel pretty raw today. But its a new day and I read and re-read all the posts from last night. I know what I need to do, so it is just a matter of sticking to it now.
Thanks. I am okay today, which is better than I thought I'd be so I am not complaining. I know you are really hurting and struggling, but you will make it through.
Today I am fighting my thoughts. Mu brian keeps returning to wondering what he is doing today. Each time I my mind goes there I look for a new thread here to read about to distract myself.
I am going to a funny movie soon, so that should help. Then a run and a good workout and likely right back here to my lifeline.
I was just driving home from a movie and got caught up hoping to come home to a message from H and wondering how after 4 months and he is still miserable and tells me he is miserable, he cannot see it was not "us" or at least not "us" alone. Shock of shocks - there is no message from H and now I have managed to work myself into quite a foul mood, so I am off for a run.
It's so awesome that you're using exercise and resulting pump of endorphins to counter the onslaught of the blues. One thing I find helpful is to use exercise more as a preventative activity than remediation. Doing some aerobic exercise in the morning before work really helps regulate my emotions throughout the work day. In the evening, when the endorphins run out, I'll either go ride my motorcycle for a bit or hit the weights.
You did such a great job yesterday, and I think you're well on your way to dropping the rope. I think if you up the socializing a bit more (because everyone needs positive human contact), your world will just expand exponentially.
Baby steps....celebrate every inch of progress gained as if it were a mile.
Now get busy getting busy!
- Me = 32 y/o - WAW = 32 y/o - M = 2.5 yrs, T = 12.5 yrs - No kids - Bomb, WAW moved out, D filed = 8/15/08
Thank you so much! I should try to use running in a preventative manner. I just have been a bit of a sissy in the wee hours during the workweek. It has been in the thirties here - a bit chilly for my current resolve.
I have a question for you. I am a bit lost with the "dropping the rope" thing. Does that mean letting go of the hope for reconciliation or is it just a synonym for detaching?
