My son was telling me lastnight as we were sitting on the patio that his dad will be coming home. I asked him how he knew that and he said he has nothing over there and that everything he loves, has, wants is right here but pride and shame keep him away at the moment.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I think these MLCers get to a point and wonder if what they are seeing (us loving unconditionally, etc.) is the real deal, and it scares them to some degree.
But I do know it comforts my h to hear that I still love him unconditionally. Also, to tell him I am praying for him has also been something he is thankful for.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I posted on Glam's thread that H sent me via text a picture of the living room where he lives.
At first, I was like what the heck is this, it is dark and dreary...bizarre is more like it. Medieval looking is about as best I can explain it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Scared is a good term. Also, they have many doubts that life can really change. I know my h has often said in c that he doesn't want to go back to the way life was, even though I still think my h has yet to accept his part in the destruction of our m. I am thinking that is coming, some day!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, Your husband is now at the stage of admitting what he's done. He's facing the demons that have been hounding him for the last couple of years. As he goes through his acceptance of what he's done, he will find a way to put the key in the door and open it to what he must do to correct some of those mistakes.
Continue doing what you are doing. It's very important not to change anything at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I sure hope he is getting to the end of this journey.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
