Oh, another detail I forgot to add. When my husband was talking to me he also said that he needed a little bit of time to think, because our sitch had just changed drastically. I said ok, I know. I understand. I told him to have fun, but be safe tonight. I said I love you and he said I love you, too. I cheerfully said goodnight and he said I'll see you some time in the morning.
And really I was cheerful, because I had my plans set for the night. I have church in the morning. I have no expectations right now. I am just grateful to be home. My dog is here and I feel pretty good right now.
Oh, and to save on the 2x4's, I always tell him I love him and he says he loves me, too. It might not be DB, but it is not something I plan to change as long as he still tells me the same back.
Funny how a DAM can love you and still do what they do, huh? Used to hurt so much to think about, but now I can kind of look at it and shake my head a little. Not sure if its detaching or anything close, but I really am not hurting at the moment.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
(((((Kj)))))) you sound really really good. I am so glad you're at home doing the things you love to do. Filling your own love bucket along with the bird feeder. Good Job !!!
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
(((Tawnya))) Hey honey, its the first time I can say I really do feel I'm doing well. I just set the clocks back for daylight savings time and I'm about to head to bed.
You have a good night, too, my dear.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
(((((Kj)))))) you sound really really good. I am so glad you're at home doing the things you love to do. Filling your own love bucket along with the bird feeder. Good Job !!!
Hugs
Somehow it felt good to laugh when he didn't want to get into bed with me. He didn't have a choice about me coming home. I think he thought ok, I can deal with her staying in the other bedroom. But I didn't do that either.
He could have come to bed, no problem. But he didn't want to, no problem. I slept in the extra bedroom to give him space for over 2 months, I was at my friend's place for 2 months to give him space, now I'm home and he has to find his own space. I am sleeping in my bed.
No arguments about it, just how its going to be.
My love bucket even had chocolate brownies tonight (with an Arbor Myst blackberry merlot chaser.)
I love you Cookie! I went ahead and slayed the dragons for you - the coast is clear for your sweet Cookie dreaming.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Wifey..thanks..I did have a good night, even got to talk to hub for a few minutes..my computer was acting up so he came up to fix it and he actually told me a little about his day..it was a nice change of pace
I got a laugh about your laugh.."he's gonna have to find his own space" LOL..yes..I definitely think you get to choose where you sleep as you have been good and giving him space for a while
I'm so glad you that can actually say you are doing well..you deserve it!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Make sure you all go to Christiana Campbells for a toddie.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
